Yah know, sometimes blogging is like trying to make conversation on your FIRST DATE meeting generated from Online Dating.
Sometimes your mind (my mind) just goes, “Duh, huh? Erp?” aka Blank. Now of course, when you’re a single dater, you can then leverage Romantic Body Language Flirting Techniques and sip your Adult Beverage or Coffee drink. Swirl your swizzle stick. Smile. Look mysterious. Look off into the distance. All of these things add to you… mmmmystery…. your… allure…. And cover that your mind is at an utter blank as to what to SAY and UTTER in the conversation.
And sweetly and graciously it allows for (quelle gasp) your date to utter something back to you… or simply to start a new conversation topic.
I am just writing about these sort of First Date Conversations – appropriate topics and behavior for a First Date aka in Internet Dating speak as Date 0. I’m doing this as I prepare (more preparing, yup) for presenting two workshops on Saturday at the JACL Singles Conference in Las Vegas.
My own mind has been sucked out dry from writing and thinking about this topic. Sometimes when I first write, because I am placing so much stress and emphasis on safety and physical security, I almost sound like your Sunday School teacher admonishing you. Now, of course, those who KNOW me, are confident that I will present and talk about dating and meeting in a manner which conveys great fun. It’s just I’m laughing at myself as I read the dryness of the words of what I’ve written in some cases. Will definitely require a re-write for my book.
BTW, having written out the material in an outlined fashion, each about 10,000 words, I now have about 1/2 of a book. Ergo MUST have a full book ready for some editing then by mid-October. To be published then about 6-8 wks later. So, I anticipate being a published book author as well before the end of the year. Naturally, the book will be about dating and online dating.
Until tomorrow…
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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Awesome! I look forward to reading your excellent work.
Pushing companies from good to great, Kate
April,
I bet you have at least SIX BOOKS stuck in your head on this topic. I know it is something that you are passionate about– Helping people to improve their relationships and widen their circle of acquaintance… and you are also very insightful.
Some suggested DATE ZERO topics:
hockey
revolver or semi-automatic- which is better?
NFL football
how hard it is to find ammo…
why Kanye West is such a loser…
you get the picture…
Seize the Day,
Rob
Emergency Preparedness For the 21st Century Family
“Date O” is an interesting term and very descriptive. This zero date, however, can be very serious indeed.
About 3 months ago I witnessed to my complete bafflement a young woman meet a man on line and within 2 weeks was off to Greece to meet him personally. I guess I’m beyond indulging in, or even understanding, that kind of infatuation. I thought it was downright dangerous and suggested that to her deaf ears.
She did come back safely but disappointed.
I offer this as an illustration of the power of a “zero date.”
Are you flirting with us?
I think you’re right – good blogs are flirting?
I’m off to flirt!
martin-wright.com
From Change Management to Spontaneous Change
Nothing like the feeling in the first date. Scary, exciting, nervous. The same things happen on most things we do for the first time.
Robert Martin
http://www.carbuyinghq.com
April,
All the success for your weekend’s talk and your coming book!
John Ho
Numerology Expert Birthday Numeroscope
I have never tried online dating, but it seems to be similar to blind dating, except that someone basically gives you a picture before the date. I’m not knocking it, if I was single or looking for an affair I’m sure I’d try it, but starting a conversation with you finally meet has the same difficulties.
Steve Chambers, B2B Sale Trainer
Amazing a book April. That’s great!
Jose Escalante
http://www.JoseEscalante.com
Hi Robert,
Thanks for stopping by. yes, all those feeling on a first date. And sometimes with writing one’s first 3 blog posts. Then they get the hang of it, n’est pas?
April
Hi Mr. Wright,
Thanks for stopping by my blog! How right you are! Indeed, go have fun blog flirting. You’re doing a great job of it.
April
Hi Herr Northrup! Greetings to Our Man in the EU right now. Thank you for the encouragement. In fact I just learned another lesson today. Will have to write about the learning, not the details so much. And thank you for the compliment about being insightful.
Hockey, ordinance, and ammo, oh my! Have a happy anniversary and then safe travels home. – April
April,
What a great metaphor. I look forward to your book too.
If you ever need help teaching personal security, saftey and self-defense I’ll be glad to help. That’s what I do
Lynn Lane
Success Strategies For Life
Hi Lynn,
thanks so much for the kind offer. I haven’t even fully explored all your resources yet. Do you offer any kind a DVD for that? Or do you find that is something which you can ONLY teach live, in-person, interactively?
April
Wow April!
Lets take a breather together!…I can’t to see your book.
My eager to learn more in depth about body language.
Terry
http://www.terrytom.com
Cool news on your book! April, I wish you tremendous success!
Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace
A book too Miss April?!!!! Holy cow! You are a close second to the one and only Dr Hogan for getting stuff done!
Lisa McLellan
Babysitting Services – Babysitters and Nannies
Thanks for the encouragement Terry, and for stopping by my blog.
yes ma’am! Well, ya know he’s been mentoring me for over 2.5 yrs now. Some of his example HAS rubbed off.
Thanks so much for stopping by honey bunnie. LOVE your new YouTube video!
I know you will accomplish whatever you set your sights on. The book will be great and can’t wait to see it in print!
Jen Battaglino
The Harwood Center – Tinnitus, Chronic Illness, Fears, and Anxiety
Looking forward to reviewing your book.
BTW do you have an affiliate program set up on your coaching program?
James
BusinessAndMarketingMakeover.com/blog
Hi Missy Boots! Hi Miss Jennifer! Thank you so much for the encouragement across all of these months. I will certainly give you and advance copy so you can do an amazon review!
Thank you, as ever, for stopping by
April
Hi April, I have found the kind of disconnection intimacy in online clubs/forums to be offensive. I ditch men who engage in that because to me signals bad intentions from the start. My friend (a long term online dater) disagrees and says that is “normal”. IMHO we might as well be blogging. Better return in the long run. I’m in my mid thirties so maybe my generation is alright with that – except for me! Perhaps I should look at boomer men(?).
Keri Eagan
Anything Alternative
April: Are you playing both ends against the middle now? Senior dating and babysitting?
First dates are either fantastic or total duds. Is it because of our expectations? Or is there something else at play?
Learning about detox, Katie
Yes, when we go on a date with the question in our mind of “Is this THE One for me?” and it’s NOT. Devastated. Instead approach with, “What is unique and interesting about this person? And what do they want to tell me about themselves?” We can enjoy their company and the communication skill practice of excavating that and admiring it. Most of us do NOT receive that kind of interest and admiration from others. We increase our own charm and attractiveness by doing so. And we are always at choice for whether we want to see them again. Then we bless them with our presence and they with theirs to us. And then the first date is never a “waste” of time.
That was quite brilliant what I just wrote, btw.
April
You Go Girl!
What you wrote above is brilliant. I agree.
I think the best attitude to go into a first date with is that of curiosity.
The thing I enjoyed most about my dating years was the amount of new people I met.
And of course… wear a cool hat! lol
Hi Mr. Jalopy! so great to see you. Thank you for stopping by my blog and commenting. Thank you for all the encouragement and belief in me.
April
I rather like the comparison you make for online dating here April.