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Singles Boomer Dating – Not Everything Is What You’re Used to

One of the joys of dating and relationship building when you are a single over 4o or 5o is that not everything is exactly what you were used to probably last time round that you were single and dating previously.

OK, so maybe you are divorced.  First marriage?  Second Marriage?  what is your are a widow or widower?  First of all, I recommend you doing some cleansing and sort of Wall Painting Prep work on yourself first:  Divorce and Grief Recovery Seminar

Then on the other note, it will both take longer to meet more single boomers whom you find mesh well with your life now as a potential life partner, and then it takes less time to build the relationship because, well, you already know HOW, than your GenX Single and Millenial Singles peers.

That is the Bad News and the Good News.

In addition, I inculcate for Not Settling.

Now, I don’t mean we don’t all need to work on our compromise and relationship communication skill sets and negotiations.  And I am not pressing for seeking for an IDEAL man or woman.  But I stress, don’t settle.

Sometimes single Boomers think that there are not that many other singles in their demographic regions. So, like, I have to settle.


How about expanding your regional demographic?

Or looking to a YOUNGER single?  And I offer that to both men and women.

WHY NOT?  Why NOT you?  Why not you being incredibly happy with someone who was a bit…  unexpected for you?

Who loves you.  Respects you.  Cherishes you.

You.  Yes, you.

Keep an open mind for where LOVE will come to YOU now.  Not 20 years ago.  Times have changed.  So has your ideal life partner.

Happy Dating and Relationships!

April Braswell

Dating Quick Start Expert, Relationship Success Coach

{ 17 comments… add one }
  • Steve Chambers May 2, 2009, 11:25 PM

    For the man he should always date younger, Ten years is about perfect, 20 years is obtainable, 30 years younger absolutely rocks. Dating should be fun and fantastic.

    Steve Chambers, The Sales Expert

  • Duane Cunningham May 3, 2009, 12:15 AM

    Hi April,

    Wonderful post 🙂

    The girl im dating is 11 yrs younger than me so I guess your advice is spot on here


  • JJ Jalopy May 3, 2009, 3:37 AM

    Cool post my relationship and dating expert friend.

    People do tend to get hung up on age. What does it matter? Go and have fun.

    I’m going for a walk to get some ice-cream!

    JJ Jalopy.

  • John Ho May 3, 2009, 5:07 AM


    The world today changes super fast. The lighting speed of change is frightening indeed. So the tactics, strategies and the target also changes for partner or lovers.

    Great advice on your part!

    John Ho

  • Christian Haller May 3, 2009, 5:29 AM

    20 years difference is exactly where I am Steve. It’s great. And April, you are right, never settle. People tend to get what they deserve and if you settle, well that’s what you deserve. It’s all a matter of not getting hung-up on “the one.”
    Christian Haller

  • Lynn Lane May 3, 2009, 8:39 AM

    You must have fun with it. Life is way too short.
    Lynn Lane

  • Bob Kaufer May 3, 2009, 9:22 AM

    I agree with Steve, it should be looked upon as fun.

    Bob Kaufer

  • Don Shepherd May 3, 2009, 9:27 AM

    I’m with Steve on this one, but i’ll make the cut off at 25.

    Don Shepherd

  • Rob Northrup May 3, 2009, 10:39 AM

    very good info for single Boomers…
    Seize the Day,


  • Anthony Lemme May 3, 2009, 11:42 AM

    30 years younger? That’s a little extreme and not conducive to aging gracefully together. I know a couple with a 3o year age difference. He is 60 and she is 30 and as her sexual powers are increasing and her desire to learn and grow increase, his sexual powers are waning. She is very frustrated and feels like he is becoming more like a child to take care of. She knows it was a mistake. And let’s face it the only older guys who are getting with women 30+ years younger have money and or power. The 60 year old man that has little money, power or authority in the world is not pulling beautiful intelligent 20 somethings. It is often more about the male ego.


  • Pam Schulz May 3, 2009, 3:11 PM

    Great advice! It’s easy to see why you are the dating expert for single boomers.


  • Sonya Lenzo May 3, 2009, 5:40 PM

    age truly is a state of mind. and attraction is not always about the things it was when we were younger.

  • Lisa McLellan May 4, 2009, 9:16 AM

    Good points about not settling. I feel like a friend of mine “settled.” The ironic part was that I think she settled because she felt her biological time clock ticking and she wanted to have kids, and now she’s been married for about 8 years and still hasn’t gotten pregnant. She used to babysit for me all the time when my kids were younger and talk about having children. I feel bad for her. I hope she at least adopts.

    Lisa McLellan, Babysitting Services – Babysitters, Nannies, and Au-pairs

  • Darryl Pace May 4, 2009, 12:16 PM

    Hi April. Great advice. I agree that, generally, age is just a number. However, as Anthony pointed out, too much of an age difference can lead to some negatives. In the end though, we need to find someone we’re compatible with, and that we can enjoy life with. Whether that person is our age, older, or younger, makes no difference.

    Health, Fitness — Darryl Pace

  • mark mallen May 4, 2009, 6:29 PM

    More good advice April. It does seem that the older people get, the more set they are in their ways. Mark

  • Pat Becker May 4, 2009, 11:57 PM

    Well, we certainly get hung up on age. My perimeters not so old that he’s given up growing and enjoying life or that I have to take care of him and not so young that his birth year and my kids is about the same. Give me a lot of leeway. Yes?


  • David Power May 5, 2009, 7:21 AM

    Brilliant advice for boomers where ever you are!!!

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