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Single Women Baby Boomer Dating Success Ask, “Should I Consider Cougar Dating?” – Dating Benjamin Braddock

You know, frankly, Mrs. Robinson had a lot going for her.  First of all, she was played by sultry Hollywood and multiple award winning actress, Anne Bancroft.  And what woman does not positively LOVE that marvelous leopard print bra and slip ensemble she wore for her trysts with Dustin Hoffman?  All this before Victoria had her Secret in everywoman’s lingerie drawer and made leopard print lingerie so readily available, even at Wal*Mart and Target!

As a Baby Boomer Dating expert, one of the complaints I commonly hear from the single boomer women is about how few single men their own age there are.  Certainly, it is a sad fact.  As women age (gasp, don’t you hate that term?), more men are already married or have (yes) died.  When you only dating target focus on men within 5 years of your age range, it can feel really frustrating and like your dating choices are really limited.

But we are modern women now, are we not?

So who is to say we can ONLY date, marry, pair up and be happy with a man within 5 years of our age?

No one!

Let’s learn a dating and relationship success truth from Hollywood’s example.  Mrs. RobinsonSusan SarandonDemi Moore.  All of these glamorous award winning ladies are happy paired up with younger men.  Younger men who actively and clearly pursued them.

This is called Cougar Dating.

No longer is Cougar Dating all about older women who are dressed in some tacky too tight and too plunging obvious clothing and overly desperate manner on the prowl looking to devour younger men at the singles bars.

Au contraire! (that was for Yann Vernier)

Truth be told, many younger men are the ones who first pursue older women.  The younger men are looking for women who are more confident, socially poised, and have more relationship maturity than the 20 somethings they were previously dating.

In short, these younger men, often in their late 20s and early 30s, are looking for (yes, let me hear you say it) …. a relationship.  They are often looking to pair bond (as the sociologist and anthropologists refer to it) and settle down.  While many people initially think, “Oh sure, they just want one thing….” In truth studies demonstrate that many young men are looking to pair up and settle down in mature relationships and want a mature woman for their life partner.

No longer is a woman dating a younger man socially taboo.  In fact, Cougar Dating has become so mainstream that it is now featured on multiple tv shows, including popular reality tv.

Take a page out of Hollywood tv and movies and expand the age range you will consider in your search for love.  Your Mr. Right might just be a younger man in the guise of Benjamin Braddock!

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert

{ 14 comments… add one }
  • Lisa McLellan September 12, 2009, 2:15 PM

    I never heard the term “Cougar Dating” but I like it! Meow! I would probably go with a man up to 10 years older or younger than me. I think a 20 year range should open the window a bit!

    Lisa McLellan
    Babysitting Tips, Babysitting Services – Babysitters, Nannies, and Au-pairs

  • Kate McKeon September 12, 2009, 3:07 PM

    Let’s hear the ladies ROAR!

    Expanding spheres of influence, Kate

  • April Braswell September 12, 2009, 3:10 PM

    Hi Katie,

    it’s TRUE!

    Here I am overly broadly categorizing that many of the older women are baby boomers. But plenty single GenX ladies are pursued and won by younger men. Thanks for stopping by my blog.

    Happy Dating and Relationships,


  • Katie September 12, 2009, 2:54 PM

    My last boyfriend was 8 years younger . . . and I just entered my 30s. Plenty of younger men out there!

    >, Katie

  • Rob Northrup September 12, 2009, 3:00 PM

    Demi Moore has pretty poor taste dumping Bruce WIllis the father of her children for the man-child…

    BTW I have nothing against people of different ages dating and marrying…

    Seize the Day,

  • Steve Chambers September 12, 2009, 4:01 PM

    Women in their 40’s and 50’s don’t swell. don’t tell and appreciate it like hell. What more could a young guy want?

    Steve Chambers
    Business to Business Sales Training Expert

  • Robert Martin September 12, 2009, 5:55 PM


    I am keeping my Cougar of 16 years. Ok, she wasn’t a Cougar then, but she is now. Hopefully she doesn’t decide the lease is up and it is time to turn me in for a newer better running model.

    Robert Martin

  • Darryl Pace September 12, 2009, 7:03 PM

    Hey, April, good information for the mature single ladies out there.

    Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace

  • Jose Escalante September 12, 2009, 7:13 PM

    Sorry ladies I’m in my 2o’s but I’m taken… 🙂

    Jose Escalante

  • Greg September 12, 2009, 7:26 PM

    Good article!
    Certified Cougar Bait

  • Vick September 12, 2009, 8:29 PM

    This makes me think of my daughter. She was afraid of what people might think. I reinforced the fact it only matters what the two of you think. It’s your relationship not theirs and if it works for the two of you – enjoy the experience. What others think is only an opinion – not necessarily shared by everyone else.


  • Mister P. September 13, 2009, 10:30 AM

    I had never heard of the term ‘Cougar Dating’ before.



  • Anthony Lemme September 13, 2009, 5:13 PM

    Vive les cougars!


  • JJ Jalopy September 14, 2009, 1:54 PM


    Gotta love the hot cougar ladies!

    Steve’s comment above made me laugh out loud.

    This post was a riot!

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