10 Dos and Don’ts for Women’s Dating Success at Sports Bars

Etiquette for Single Midlife Women on How to Meet Men at Sports Bars

For all the single ladies seeking to meet more men and go on more dates who read my blog post from yesterday suggesting you leverage the Law of Large Numbers and Getteth Thee to a Sport Bar…. there are a number of DOs and DON’Ts for Dating Success while there.

This Marriage Motivates Single Women’s Dating Strategy Tactic of going to Sports Bar periodically to meet eligible bachelors in a natural, organic, and casual manner is generally geared for women in their 30s and 40s.

However, sort of depending on where you live and the state of the Sports Bars locally, some mature men over 50 might be there as well to cheers on the local team in a public venue. So, it can be useful for women over 50s as well.  I would just suggest then that you attend on a GNO Girls Night Out motif with a few slightly younger girlfriends so your being there is clearly social should the male crowd not suit you this time. Treat it as a recon trip and glean what you can about the viability of this watering hole for you to meet TIP Target Ideal Prospect date material for you in the future.

Ok, yes, first of all, what to wear?  Of course, you are an attractive woman, so make-up, heels, and lipstick….

1. Wear a Sports Team Jersey – DO or DON’T?

Attention Getting Attractive Woman at sports bar for men
Attention Getting Attractive Woman

Do wear the jersey for the local team ONLY.  If you wear the jersey for the opposing out of town team, we will need to 86 you and will have grounds to do so! lol.  Seriously, that is just not the confrontational energy you want for fostering romantic chemistry.

You do not have to wear a sports jersey to attend a game at a Sport Bar.  Now, if that is absolutely super genuinely you, DO go ahead and wear your local team.  In general, it is almost a bit competitive with the guys, and that competitive energy is not conducive for romantic chemistry and body language flirting.

Women can wear the team’s cute Ladies Tshirts which often have a touch of lycra and feature a touch of bling accentuating the team logo.   Do dress feminine, cute, and casual.  Blue jeans are great on this occasion, often paired with high heels to complete the look where you convey your message of being a woman.  Not a sports fan.  Different energy.

Where to Sit and How to Behave

2. DO bring a couple of friends with you, preferably all women.

Your girlfriends are your wing men (girls) and can set you up, chatski with a cute guy, and then turn and introduce you, positioning you well.   Not all of you need to be huge sports enthusiasts.  So long as you genuinely enjoy a game periodically, go.  You can always ask those safe feminine conversation starters of the men to explain it to you!  “I’ve never really understood the call of Icing in hockey…. Could you please explain it to me?” uttered in your sweetest femmy voice.

3. DON’T Bring Your Whole Sorority House or Junior League Committee Team with You

While studies demonstrate that engaged women had a group of girlfriends they regularly go out to dinner with and make social efforts with, studies also show that the most effective groups are small – 3-4 women.  Men feel like they would have to break into a herd to reach you when your group is more than 4 women.  Bring your girlfriends, just keep it to a small group, ok?

4. DO Sit at a Cocktail Bar Table Right In the Middle of the Bar Area

Sitting at a table in the middle area of the bar puts you in the middle of the action, and you are surrounded by all sides with other fans with whom you can lightly flirt and interact.  Often there will be at least one table of a group of men to your left or to your right.  A group of 4 men as well.  In this group not all the men are necessarily single.  Some might be married.

When you are in a super public place like this watching a sports game, it is perfectly acceptable simply to flirt with all of them lightly and you mean nothing more by it.  So here it is ok to flirt with the married guy just the same at the single men.  This is a great time to practice your Body Language Flirting skills with no need to worry or fret.  You don’t need to do anything to steer it to his asking you for your number or a date.  You do want to practice your light flirting skills while you are getting polished, poised, and skilled without it being Mr. Hotty the first time you try them out.

You’re all just there to have fun and watch the game.  At the end of the evening head home.  No harm no foul.  Or as we say in Stanley Cup hockey, “No blood, play on!”

5. DO Cheer For Your Local Team

No need to be timid females where you’re to demure to utter a word while there.  This is a Sport Bar with a sporting event playing.  Whoop it up when the save if in your team’s favor or when the score a touchdown or a goal! Go ahead!  You’re here to have fun.

6. DON’T Be the Loudest Table at the Bar

Being super loud with the cheers is a very yang aggressive male mode.  Yes, women can be enthusiastic sports fans and can cheer.  Just don’t be the loudest table there!

7. DON’T Hide at a Small Side Table in the Dark

You might feel really shy the first time you go to a sports bar.  However, don’t just sit at a small table in the far dark corner and hide or you completely wasted your whole point in going to the sports bar.

8. DO Be Sure to Break Periodically from the Pack of Your Girlfriends and Cross to the Bar Alone

When you break from The Pack of your girlfriends, you provide both the opportunity for an interested man to approach you.

Additionally, by doing so, while you are crossing the room, you are displaying yourself to the men there, that you are an attractive and romantically available woman.  This is the Mating Equivalent of Dangling the Wiggling Sparkling Bait in front of a school of hungry fish.

So don’t just rely on your cocktail waiter or waitress to serve your table all evening.  Do create reasons for you to go up to the bar alone throughout the evening.

9. DO Head Over on None Date Nights

Sunday and Monday nights?  Where the Boys are?  Well, lots of them are at the Sports Bar this Fall and Winter.  Go ahead and place yourself there strategically, too.  You never know what might develop!

Secondarily, while I am recommending that you head on over to a fun sport bar watering hole to watch The Game on a weeknight, come playoff season for each of the sports and you can go over at other times, including normal “Date Nights.” Stanley Cup Playoffs trump everything.

10. Don’t Let Your Chance Meeting Today Become His Hookup Tonight

That said, you’d still likely do a bit better in terms of the size of the crowd being sufficient to make it worthwhile and still yet small enough to permit casual conversation and mingling to attend some of those Saturday or Sunday afternoon Playoffs games. Saturdays and he might half be thinking he could snag a dinner date with you. Smile. Be sweet. Make sure he has your number. And demur. “Oh, I’d really enjoy that. I already have plans. Oh, gosh….” If he’s interested and there’s been some conversational exchange, he’ll hopefully right then and there ask for a date for another time. Generally, you’d prefer that he be the instigator (testosterone interest test) of actually suggesting another night. Just because he asked for that evening doesn’t mean as a sure sign that he’s interested in dating you. He might be hoping for an easy hook up and figure he can segue from a few beers at the sports bar to “dinner” which might just prove to be the burgers on the sports bar’s kitchen menu for grub and a quick exit stage left to the bedroom without actually really Dating. The Rules helped a generation raised on the easy sex meaning “liberation” tails of our aunts to realize that Dating meant forethought and advance planning a mini-event in a Date. I’m not being a prude here. If that’s what you want, that’s your choice. But then don’t be surprised that that same man is not interested in Dating/Courting you. He’s not using you if you went into it with your eyes open choosing just a hook-up. I just don’t recommend it for marriage-motivated single women because the behavior and neuropathway trailways are counterproductive for resulting in what you seek.

Long term, hook-ups are inefficient and huge cost of energy not moving your down the pathway of long-term relationships and life-long love, possibly marriage.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Las Vegas Midlife After 40 Over 50 Dating Expert

As seen in Dating for Dummies, 3rd Edition

 

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  1. This seems so simple yet so many women would never think of it.

    You just want to be careful to not out-testosterone the men at the sports bar watching the game. Let them be “in charge” of the sports bar atmosphere.

    And hopefully your local team is a good one so you’ll be cheering instead of commiserating…

    Go VIKINGS tonight…

    Seize the Day,
    Rob

  2. April,

    You always have good tips for single ladies ( and gnetlemen too of course) to reach their dating goals!

    Sports fan are passionate and sometimes a bit out of hands in Australia. They just take the games too personally. I would say it ranks 3rd after politics & religion in terms of passions.

    John Ho

  3. I am laughing so hard! Asking someone to explain icing . . . even the refs have no idea what it is . . . look at how they call it! 😉

    Brilliant. Brilliant.

    One caution, if you are a die hard fan, you may not want to put yourself in public. If guys see you more into the game than into the guys, they won’t be chatting you up.

    Katie

  4. I’m sure the same gals asking about icing in hockey would question why in football no-one uses their feet!

  5. I find it very interestig that engaged or married women often went out with a small group of girls (3-4). It makes a lot of sense. I couldn’t imagine a guy being inclined to approach a gaggle of women all chatting away to each other.

    I’ll definitely be spreading that intrestinf fact around to my lady friends. Thanks!

    MissMentor

  6. This kind of sounds like baiting for bear. You know us men way to well. Are we that predictable?

    Robert Martin

  7. Well said Dating Lady! Great tips for sports bars. I don’t follow ice hockey but this, “No blood! Play on!” I like the sound of.

    Keri Eagan

  8. I love the “do’s and don’ts” of the sports bar outing! Makes perfect sense, but good that you spelled it out because sometimes it’s the little simple things that we overlook. I especially like the advice to “break from the pack occasionally.” Good one – what guy wants to approach a table of 3 or 4 women to talk to one with the rest as the audience!

    Lisa McLellan
    Babysitting Services – Babysitters and Nannies

  9. What you suggest makes a lot of sense. I’m sure your list of sports bar “Do’s and Don’ts” will be helpful for many single ladies!

    Pam

  10. This is great advice for the sports bar.

    I think that groups of 3 and 4 are probably the largest that a man would feel comfortable approaching and addressing the whole group at the same time. A big group, however, provides the opportunity for the man “pick off” and address a smaller sub-group. Which also works well.

    I don’t think I explained that very well. You’ll have to take me out for a beer and I’ll demonstrate! 🙂

  11. These are classic dating idea for meeting men! Simple but logical and probably effective. Very good post. thanks, April.

  12. With the NBA playoffs ahead this is a great dating tip for us single women, April!

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