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Single Ladies, DO Rotate Your Girls Night Out Venue!

Yup, another short one today, folks.

Here it is, Thursday night.  The international evening for GNO – Girls Night Out!

A lot of women go out for drinks and apps on Thursday night.  Indeed, in fact I did that myself this evening.

I love the cultural phenomenon of women going out and having fun with the girlfriends on Thursday night.  There always seems to be a core group that does this, even when you invite new women and vary the crowd a little bit, mixing in friends from college, sorority house sisters, fellow alumnae, women from church, your sisters from Junior League.

The thing is, this too can become a social device that can move into a rut.  Often after you are regularly going out on Thursday night about once a month or so, you will start to find yourselves always going to or ending up at the same bar.  Because it’s cool.  Because it’s fun.  Because it is convenient to your dwelling.  Whatever.  The point is, part of DOING girlz night out for a lot of single women yes to hang with your gurlz.  However, it is also to meet and flirt with new guys.  If you are always going to the same place, you do meet new men each time, it’s just, often all of the same kind.  Plus, you want to maintain your own mystery and feminine allure by not being there all the time and becoming too too terribly familiar to all the regulars.

So… that means, ladies, DO rotate the VENUE for your girls night out!  Even if occasionally it is a bit of stretch by location, you have to drive further to get home.  Whatever.  When you do that, you will meet new guyz each time and you will be opening and stretching new neuropathways in your brain which serves you well for venturing forth and trying new things on a regular basis.  That is part of the Laws of Success.

In dating and all things in life.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert

About the author: April Braswell is an internationally recognized Dating and Relationship Expert. She coaches single men and women to attract and find the best life partner for them. April brings cutting edge behavioral research to singles to empower them for finding quality mates. Connect with April at Google+: plus.google.com/+AprilBraswell/

21 comments… add one

  • Actually if I was single I would do a Friday nite. Variety is the spice in life though and you never know who you might run into on any given night. So were you a good girl last night? lol
    Vicki http://www.bridal-threads.com

  • John Ho

    Yes, do not put all eggs into the same basket to get better risk management :))

    It also breaks down monotony anyway.

    John Ho

  • Martin O'Connor

    Nice use of the video. It does liven up the post.

    Martin O’Connor

  • That’s really funny that you mention Thursday night as being Girls Night Out. Last time my friend Kathy was in town from LA, we had plans to go out on a Friday night but things got screwed up and we ended up going out on THursday night. I did notice lots of women in small groups at the bar/restaurant we went to!

    Lisa McLellan
    Child Care Expert,
    Babysitting Services, Babysitting Tips, Babysitters, Nannies

  • Mister P

    Sound advice April!

    Bert (alter ego- Mister P)

  • It probably is best to mix the venue up on girls night, but sometimes you just get so comfortable with a place. When it comes to going out, I’m a creature of habit.

    MissMentor

  • Martin

    But if y’all keep rotating venues, how are we gonna keep up with where we can find you!

  • Hi Martin,

    thanks for stopping by and commenting. well, see, precisely! Time to man up and get her number the first time you meet her! Women are also subtly testing for manliness level, confidence level in moving about each week or so. Is he man enuf to approach the first time he sees me?

    Happy Dating and Relationships,

    April

  • *sigh* it’s true. a favorite always emerges. Ok to go there. Maybe on a Sunday night and keep the rest of it rotating. We are creatures of habit and start to tribe up and mark our territory. Which is why it takes actual concerted EFFORT to keep moving and mixing things up.

    Thanks for stopping by and commenting at my blog!

    April

  • Rob Northrup

    Gotta keep the gaggle moving…

    You are right that you need to cast a wide net, you are trying to find Mr. RIght and most guys ARE creatures of habit, so better to cover more bases…

    Rob

  • Keri Eagan

    Hi April,

    Even when newcomers are invited, the key members do seem to continue to keep everyone together. Maybe it’s a female tribal thing.

    Ahh, yes. I too am a habitual creature. Variety is the spice of life though….

    Keri Eagan

  • GNO is such a great concept, but what do you do when all of the girls are married with small children? Or, pregnant? It’s hard to meet new girlfriends for GNO adventures!

    Kate

  • The more someone sees you the more attractive you appear to them. Since attraction is the key to finding a relationship it seems like a good idea to frequent only a few locations. At the same time if there are few possibilities at a single location you will want to change locations.

    It’s all so hard.

    Steve Chambers, Sale Trainer Speaker

  • Hi Kate,

    indeed, I had meant to mention that 1 woman in the gaggle might be married. Start cultivating a few younger single gfs for your GNO when that is the case. Then you also have the added benny of not being in competition over the same guyz.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting.

    April

  • Jose Escalante

    Excellent advice April

    Jose Escalante

  • Katie

    Oh yes it’s ladies night and the feelin’s right, oh yes it’s ladies night, (deep voice) oh, what a niiiight.

    Such a fun song. I have had GNO in forever! Thank you for the reminder to get off my duff.

    Katie

  • Pam Schulz

    As always, great dating advice April.

    Pam

  • Hermaine

    Hi April, I love your dating tips blog. Definitely a fan

  • Ethelene Pagliuca

    Hello April, what a great reminder to avoid the bar rut. I enjoy your article. Yours is a really informative site and so I wanted to publish the note to show you, good job and thank you!

  • Demi Sooey

    April, I love your point to us single ladies not to get into a rut with the sports bar where we go to meet guys, an awareness of that way we get stuck. Perfect work.

  • Carolyn Besherse

    Do you think there is a different between the sports bar which are part of the chains versus ones which are just a local joint?

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