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Single Dating Baby Boomers Want a Different Relationship – This Ain’t Ozzy and Harriet No More

I’m just back from presenting 2 workshops 2 hrs each covering different phases of online dating at a singles conference in Las Vegas.  Most of the singles there were 40 years old and older.  Pretty much all Baby Boomers.  The workshops were very interactive, which was just great because the participants really got their money’s worth in terms of their investment of time and moola in attending.

One of the themes which emerged in both sessions as well as was point of conversation then at lunchtime was that Boomers at this stage in life, after 50 years old pretty much -want a different kind of relationship than when they were 20 somethings or even early 30s somethings.

When that is the case and you are dating after likely already having children and owning a small house, townhouse, or condo, those are important things to discuss in the date 3-5+.  What do you want?  Now that you have already had kids… what do you want now in a relationship?

Not only are these important things and questions to ask your date once you first determine whether or not their is the all-important imperative of In-Person Chemistry (not just the fantasy from Online Email exchanges).  These are also important questions to pose to yourself!  And Dating is the laboratory for vetting out the truth, testing, and refining.

Until you are well-matched for LIFE partnership… which may or may not at your age result in marriage

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert

{ 25 comments… add one }
  • Steve Chambers September 20, 2009, 10:04 PM

    You’re definitely right, people want different things from a relationship later in life than they do when they are younger. For me it means less drama and games and more fun. Life is too short for all the crap you put up with when you’re younger.

    Steve Chambers
    Business to Business Sales Trainer

  • April Braswell September 21, 2009, 12:38 AM

    Hey hey Mr. Steve. Great to see the West Coast contingent is still awake (if we can call it that, lol) and blogging, commenting, and connecting. As always, it is great to see you here at my blog. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. – April

  • Keri Eagan September 21, 2009, 1:39 AM

    Hi April,

    I have no idea what I want in a relationship (which is partly why I’m single I think I should know or I’m wasting someone elses time). Don’t want drama because it takes too much time and energy and I can’t be bothered. Don’t want partner constantly focused on me cause that’s annoying. I’ll keep reading your tips and eventually I’ll figure out what I want and how to get it. Welcome back

    Keri Eagan

  • Martin O'Connor September 21, 2009, 4:20 AM

    I was expecting to hear that the week-end was a smashing success. Congratulations!

  • Jose Escalante September 21, 2009, 5:08 AM

    Hi April it’s always fun and entertaining to read your blog

    Jose Escalante

  • Lynn Lane September 21, 2009, 6:30 AM


    Good to hear the workshops were great for all.

    I thing your right about our relationship needs. As we age our needs change about every 10- 15 years.

    Lynn Lane

    Success Strategies For Life

  • Lynn Lane September 21, 2009, 6:33 AM

    I ” think ” – No Sleep.
    Lynn Lane

  • Scott Payne September 21, 2009, 9:40 AM

    Great Stuff as usual… always looking forward to whats around the corner

  • Robert Martin September 21, 2009, 8:55 AM

    Funny I just had a talk with my Dad yesterday, not on dating, but about life as you get older and your comments fit. When my Dad was younger he couldn’t wait to go hunt elk, and possibly caribou, or moose, but now his priorities have changed and that isn’t even on his mind. So with dating and other things in life your priorities change.

    Robert Martin

  • April Braswell September 21, 2009, 12:20 PM

    Hi Lynn,

    lol, indeed! Thanks for keeping things real around here and showing your Real Person thumb print by leaving in some typos. Them people see you are a genuine person and not a Bot. 🙂

    Thanks for stopping by,


  • April Braswell September 21, 2009, 12:21 PM

    Hi Robert,

    thanks for stopping by and contributing to the discussion. Indeed, our priorities and the ways we live our live evolve and change over time.


  • April Braswell September 21, 2009, 12:22 PM

    Hi Jose,

    thank you for saying so. That’s so sweet, thoughtful, and considerate of you.


  • Martin Wright September 21, 2009, 12:20 PM

    I’ve been doing some research around the idea of a website for over 50s BECAUSE what they want from life is generally different to the “youngsters” AND I think the internet, with all its resources, would be a great way for the over 50s to explore possibilities and expand horizons.

  • Anthony Lemme September 21, 2009, 1:43 PM

    Really good point April. We want and need different things as we get older and it is important to be clear on what your wants and needs are with yourself before you can even approach another.


  • Kate McKeon September 21, 2009, 3:25 PM

    So you’re saying boomers dating are not necessarily looking for the happily ever after?

    Or have they just redefined what that means?

    Pushing companies from good to great, Kate

  • Katie September 21, 2009, 2:35 PM

    Hey April, I have recommended you to the boomers I know who are actively . . . or not so actively dating. Lots of folks are shy about dating in their 50s, what’s up with that?
    , Katie

  • April Braswell September 21, 2009, 5:46 PM

    Hi Kate, they are looking for a different PICTURE in their happily ever after. Does that make sense?


  • James Mason September 21, 2009, 7:36 PM

    You have so many good things to consider.


  • James Mason September 21, 2009, 7:37 PM

    Yes, for sure I have different interest, now than 30 years ago.


  • Rob September 22, 2009, 6:20 AM

    Hi April,

    Glad the workshops went well. I had no doubt.
    I would imagine that many who are now single want to get back a solid long term relationship like the one they lost.
    And others want to have a chance to be their own person.
    Many who were married early (I wed at 23 and will be married 25 years next Summer) never lived life on their own for any length of time and want to try it.

    Seize the Day,

  • John Ho September 22, 2009, 10:05 AM

    Different age groups have differents priorities and needs.

    Gen X, Gen Y & Baby boomkers all differ.

    John Ho

  • JJ Jalopy September 22, 2009, 1:34 PM

    Glad your workshops rocked. Not that there was ever any chance of that not happening…

    At any age, I think it’s important to get clear on what you want, rather than what you think other people expect of you.

  • Darryl Pace September 22, 2009, 3:17 PM

    Sounds like your workshops were very successful! You’re awesome!
    As for people wanting something different, date-wise, after the age of 50, I can kind of see how that might be the case. Seems like they may not want more children, and they would just like a stable, fun, and loving partner. Is that the case?

    Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace

  • David Power September 24, 2009, 2:41 PM

    You are so right about people wanting and needing different things from a relationship. Good to hear that your busy with your fantastic workshops!!! you are a romantic gem!!!!

  • Don Shepherd October 23, 2009, 1:07 PM

    At this stage in life i know what i want and that makes dating easier. Of course after having attended Kevin’s body language weekend i have even more insight as to whether there will be a second date 🙂

    Don Shepherd

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