Just finished up with a One-on-One coaching client for the Grief Recovery® process. We are RIGHT in the midst of things. Sort of like watching Stanley Cup, just as it gets beyond super exciting, we are also in the final stretch and it’s about to end.
So, we are about to take the worksheets and the brand you established about communicating yourself succinctly in your internet dating profile. However, nope, we’re not actually going to WRITE IT today. We are still preparing.
One of the things for single boomers is to comtemplate…. What sort of romantic relationship do I want NOW at THIS stage of my life? The romantic relationship desired by the Millenials and the GenXrs who are at earlier stages of life – just starting a career, maybe wanting children, caring for elderly parents, etc. It is different for the Baby Boom generation. No longer are we trying to attract a life partner for the Building stage of life. Where for the single 30 year olds GenXrs, wanting to have children may be one of the BIGGEST factors in a romantic partnership.
For the over 45 and over 50 single baby boomer, you have likely already had your children if that was what you wanted. You may be a widow or be divorced. The life priorities are different now.
What do you want? OK, yes, I have a whole workbook on that and helping you to define what it is that YOU want, and I won’t make you do that online here in my Dating and Advise Tips blog before I’ll jump and help you craft your online dating profile. Just know, yes, you’d be doing that with me, too, before writing your profile.
Like you need to establish your target before loading your gun and pulling the trigger, right?
So, let’s speak in some GENERAL TERMS.
Perhaps your goal is a LIFE PARTNER COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP. Versus (perfectly fine, just it IS a different website and a different profile) Casual Relationships, NSA, Casual Encounters. So, since you WANT a LIFE PARTNER romantic relationship, your language will include a few relationship indicating words and images. And your profile will avoid the “Playboy” “Playgirl” “Party Girl” “Party Guy” image. Both in words and in photographs which you select to represent you in your profile.
Your PROFILE will make use of some of the OTHER words which you didn’t use in your 3 Word Brand. NOW you will get to convey a little more about yourself as a fully nuanced person. Just, still, you are KEEPING to conveying your brand.
I will take ONE ATTRIBUTE of my brand and discuss it and what I will include and not include. More in the coming days ahead.
Vivacious. Refined. READER.
READER? what KIND of reader? Newspapers? which ONES? Periodicals? Which ones? Which ones NOT? Books? Kinds. Authors. Recent Reads. Where do I read? in the park, at Peets, on the air plane? Curled up on the sofa?
Has there been any innnnnnnteresting changes in my reading habits? recently? over a period of time? This coming weekend? What about SEASONALITY? Will I add anything NEW to my SUMMER reading list? Any categories of books which I wouldn’t normally read but do because it’s Summer Time?
Now take one of YOUR Brand Attibutes and flesh it out for some examples. Some Seasonality attributes. Changes. Something upcoming that might start a conversation.
“This Summer I plan to read…..”
Go. Do this now.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
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