With being a dating expert and relationship coach, I get interviewed by the media on different aspects or topics around dating and relationships. Sometimes they will ask me about what is different in dating for the single boomer vs. a GenY single?
Other than some of the obvious little guffaws over the difference the technologies of life each generation of every 10 years or so encounters, those who grew up and remember JKF in office versus those who got their first MySpace and Facebook page while in high school and college. Just there are THOSE differences. Which really has more to do with how to market yourself and interests than in the VALUE and LIFESTYLE differences.
However, I was watching a YouTube video and posting them over at Facebook the other evening, a bunch of Led Zeppelin
(One of my favorites, feel free to enjoy it playing while you read this)
and a in this case, Sinead O’Connor’s “Nothing Compares to You.” And while I enjoy the song and it’s sweet.
Well, it is a really young, inexperienced, and very immature view of love.
THAT is one of the huge differences between single baby boomers and GenY and even Millenial Singles.
The baby boomer singles are pretty much by now have been around the block a few times. Maybe married and divorced. Maybe divorced more than once…. Maybe they been widowed and buried the spouse they had planned to spend the rest of their lives with.
And now? That there was not absolutely only ONE single person in the world for them. They want a human being, not someone who is perfect. Not striving incredibly to be perfect. Because of course, none of us is.
And then their heart opens, and they realize they can… love again.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
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It must be very tough to lose your life partner and start over.
But I have seen several people do it successfully so I know it is possible.
Seize the Day,
Rob
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I grew up in the funeral business, and one of the worse things to see is a young lady losing her husband, or vice versa. Heartbreaking stuff. You are right people need to learn to love again, life is short.
Robert Martin
http://www.carbuyinghq.com
I guess I’m Gen Y.
Greg Dougall, Philanthropist-in-Training
But no wrist slashing over a break up, right?
and you didn’t shave your head, yes?
oh good!
Thanks for stopping by and commenting!
April
Always a thoughtful read from the number one Dating and Relationship coach!
Pam
Expert Houston Retirement Planning & Wealth Management Services
What a great article April. I think you hit the nail on the head. Every now and then a younger guy will hit on me and of course I’m flattered. But, after a little conversation(to avoid being rude of course), I’m always reminded of the reason I’m still married and not wanting a new and younger love.
Lisa McLellan
Child Care Expert,
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True that.
Stability and the little things is what matters, here.
Thanks,
James Mason
JamesMasonOnline.com/blog
Being older, there is definitely a difference than when I was in my early twenties.
Cool post!
Jim
BusinessAndMarketingMakeover.com/blog
Sage advice dear April. I’m on the cusp of Gen X and Gen Y but am past the perfect.
Katie
From what I can tell, what Baby (boomer) wants, Baby (boomer) gets.
You are the boomer dating powerhouse!
Kate
With age comes wisdom, and a better idea of reality.
Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Trainer
It’s sadly true April a lot of people around my age don’t relationships seriously
Jose Escalante
http://www.joseescalante.com
You really get into the psychograghics of many different ages! Neat post.
Bert (alter ego- Mister P)
MisterP.org/blog
My Dad died (suddenly) in his 50s, which was devastating to us all, and to Mum most of all.
Mum’s best friend divorced her husband when she was in her 30s.
Having been closely involved in both, my Mum strongly believes divorce is far more devastating than bereavement.
Either way, it’s tough – no matter what Gen you are!
Great videos – does that label me a GenY or just someone with good taste!!
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We used to define 30 years as one generation. These days, the generation gap seems to be more like 15 years!
I find that changes in social fabrics and the mentality of the younger generations does affect how you use the birthdates to interpretate the personalities.
John Ho
Numerology Expert Helps Understanding Personality for Better Influence & Persuasion
Live again…..Love again! What a great bit of wisdom.
Lynn Lane
Success Strategies For Life
Intimacy is so important with a real important human being…it just gives it that special connection!!! love the post, your stuff is so freah Im getting addicted!!!!
My last partner was 19 years older than me. I noticed his attitude was a little different than mine but never would have verbalised it like that.
Thanks
Keri Eagan
Anything Alternative
Re: lost love, I hope that time heals all wounds…I think it does; and allows us to love and be loved again.
Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace
I have to agree with you on this, not that it’s a struggle.
I like the wider content boxes.
Martin O’Connor
http://smallbusinessdesigncenter.com
There is the romanticized unrealistic view of love and a more balanced and realistic one. There is room for both in our lives but things happen, life happens and we must get real or suffer alone with our limiting beliefs.
Anthony
http://www.anthonylemme.com
I love both of those songs.
Great wisdom, April.