Single Baby Boomers Dating – Go Food Shopping Together In First 2 Months of Courtship
Often singles when they are dating are envisioning these super romantic dates. And particularly the singles never marrieds are sort of flipping back and forth between serious courtship impressing each other dates (important because you are displaying your visual attractiveness in the women combined with our graciousness and essence, while the man is display the resources he gives her access to, including his intellect, reading repertoire, athletic pursuits, and lifestyle) and the desire to just hang, wear sweats, and eat pizza on the couch.
A lot of the Baby Boomer Singles have been married before, might be divorced. Might be widowed. As a generation, they are often looking sooner for a life partner sort of relationship rather than serial dating.
With that, both for Boomers and younger singles, one of the Dates I recommend a couple participate in after about the 6 week mark is to start to do SOME of the Life Sharing activities together. Yes, do go hiking this weekend if that is something you normally do, and that is not just a courting behavior that you would totally abandon within 3 months of marriage. However, beforehand, bop into the grocery store and hit the deli, pick up some sandwiches for the hike, some bottled water and some chopped fresh fruit. Even 15 – 20 minutes in the grocery store lends itself to Normal Life mode of life.
You want to start putting your toe in the wading pool of Normal Life. Because Married Life is where you share your Life with another. And Life includes buying toilet paper, weekly groceries, buying generic for some items, purchasing a name brand for another, reading labels, and buying covert amounts of junk food (ok, the small bag of potato chips so you don’t eat too many, they’re over by the deli counter). You want both to start testing the waters of how is that like with this person? As well as a gentle way to start to reveal a more fully rounded genuine you with your date. So they can see how they like sharing Life with you, wonderful you.
It is in the small things, the mundane things that married life often plays out. And it is the little stupid things over which married couples bicker and fight. When you start to share the silly normal life activities together, you start to see if you are aligned, not identical, about the stuff that makes up daily life. Not the platform of the political party where you are registered voter, but about if a brand name toilet paper matters to you both. And exchanging that information in a non-judgmental manner. Sort of observing each other. One is not right and the other wrong. It’s just that invariably you two are different. Indeed, it is the differences which make for chemistry. And you might find you change brands or try something, gasp, new as a result of your date’s input or preferences. And that contributes to life’s rich tapestry. We expand each other. The differences between you are what will stretch each of you a little and makes for part of the very purpose of relationships – to become the person you will be as a result of your knowing them. You will become a new you, more of your best self. And those are the people we always want in our lives, whether it results in marriage or not.
Happy Dating and Relationships,