I was just visiting with one of my favorite married couples today. Now you need to know that when it comes to influence and persuasion, I take at least 10% credit for their marrying. Because the husband was a confirmed, “I’m never marrying again!” post divorced guy. (very handsome by the way, and yes, remember he is taken).
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What are some of the lessons to learn from them and other happily married couples for long term relationship and marriage success?
Keep It Real
Get Out of Dodge
Keeping It Real:
One of the differences in marriage versus early dating is that a husband and wife will see each other when they look their worst. When you have the flu. Runny red nose. Worshiping the porcelain god…. And they still love you. Now this is in contrast to those ensembles we were in our early dates. And yes, I agree with Custom Formal wear designer, Vicki Hanson, “that life is fun, dress for it.” And yet there are days and times when a ball gown, full make up, dress pumps, or a gentleman’s evening jacket are not called for. We want a spouse to love us completely, even when we are our most vulnerable looking.
Additionally, we need to remember to
Get Out of Dodge:
At the end of the weekend, the end of the work week, the end of a tough or busy day, for whatever reason, couples need to continue to expand their lives and get out of the house, go out for a drink and practice their body language flirting, wear a broad shoulders accentuating jacket, gentlemen, and where the ladies can dress up a bit, feel special like on an early romantic date. And simply get out of the house.
Indeed, the wooing behavior of early courtship couples is a great long-term success Relationship Success tip for married couples. To nurture their continued cherishing of each other.
So when flu season hits, you still feeling loving, tender, and intimate together.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert
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Good practical tips to keep the flame!
Bert (alter ego- Mister P)
MisterP.org/blog
They’re one of my favorite married couples too!
And getting married by Elvis is another important consideration. Vowing to always be each others hunka hunka burning love forever is sure to lead to marital stability…
Seize the Day,
Rob
Emergency Preparedness For the 21st Century Family
I’ve been married for 25 years and I must agree. Keep it real and Get away every chance you have.
Lynn Lane
http://www.Warriorofsuccess.com
I have been married for 16 years, and I couldn’t agree more. Have a date night. Do something special. Treat your spouse like you would a new flame.
Robert Martin
http://www.carbuyinghq.com
Excellent advice April
Jose Escalante
http://www.joseescalante.com
By “Get out of the house”, I assume you mean together?!
And do you know how difficult it is to find a babysitter?!
I’m all for married couples carrying on dating (each other).
http://www.martin-wright.com
I think women more than men want to get out of Dodge, whether it’s the house or a city.
I’d say selection was the number one criteria. You have to pick the right partner. After that both partners need to keep it real and keep it fun.
And thank you, we had a great time too.
Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Trainer
“Dancing Queen… feel the beat of the tamberine… oh YEAH!” encore, encore!
Sans judgment. The Get Out of Dodge is a NEWNESS attribute. If we neglect that NEWNESS component in a RELATIONSHIP, married men will look for that then via extra-curricular affairs. So, men DO need NEWNESS as well, just…. logically minded they often do not fully REALIZE it.
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April
Va-va-voom! I wish my parents would take your advice. It helps to reconnect through date night.
Kate
If you keep up the weekly dates you won’t fall out of practice with the flirting. I hear so many couples sound lackluster about their love life. It doesn’t have to be that way!
Katie
Great advice as usual. Body language flirting is fantastic for added spark.
Cheers
Keri Eagan
Anything Alternative
April,
Good, bad & the ulgy are all in full display when you have a full time real realationship.
So selective hearing and selective memeory is highly recommended for life long relationship.
Otherwise, it’s just like caffeine or cocaine fix. The initial utopian feelings just wears off consistently.
John Ho
Numerology Expert Helps Understanding Personality for Better Influence & Persuasion
I can relate to this after 31 years of marriage. Sometimes we let little things that don’t even matter get in the way of keeping a connection. Communication is so vital to keep the flame burning.
Vicki http://www.bridal-threads.com
Beautiful post. Made me think of my own husband and how you grow closer through the intimacy as well as the hard times because it’s the true test of whether you are going to stick together. When I couldn’t lift my head in the hospital and he was feeding me jello…now that’s love. Ok, enough babbling.
So Ms. Braswell, hope you got my email the other day!
I will try you again to meet up later in the week. Let me know what’s good for you and I loved your question about tinnitus…it will be in the upcoming blog.
You’re the best!
Jen
The Harwood Center – Tinnitus, Chronic Illness, Fears, and Anxiety
The advice on getting a second and generic e-mail address is sound advice and something that could be overlooked.
Martin O’Connor
http://smallbusinessdesigncenter.com
Hi Jen,
thank you. that was really sweet of you.
Babble away. Because that is really true. I had a related point in my post about Farrah Fawcett and Ryan O’Neal’s Real Love of each other:
So when you couldn’t hold your head up and your DH fed you jello YES THAT is Real Love. And the kind we want. With another human being. Imperfect, too. ♥
April
Great couple – aren’t they?!!! Perfect match if there ever was one. He’s handsome, she’s gorgeous (and so photogenic), and such nice people too!
My husband and I almost never go out together without the kids. We always take them. We have even taken them out with us on Valentines Day. We need to get out of Dodge – alone!
Lisa McLellan
Child Care Expert,
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Good idea to just get out and away for a while.
I am going to try to do that more.
James Mason
JamesMasonOnline.com/blog
Nothing like a little vacation, weekly, to keep things good.
Jim
BusinessAndMarketingMakeover.com/blog
Right on target with the not looking (or acting your best).
Good advice!
Bert (alter ego- Mister P)
MisterP.org/blog
April,
Solid advice for the married folks! I especially like the recommendation to “get out of dodge” occasionally, and engage in the “wooing behavior of early courtship”. That keeps things cooking!
Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.