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Relationship Success – Married Couples, Keeping It Real and Getting Out of Dodge

I was just visiting with one of my favorite married couples today.  Now you need to know that when it comes to influence and persuasion, I take at least 10% credit for their marrying.  Because the husband was a confirmed, “I’m never marrying again!” post divorced guy.  (very handsome by the way, and yes, remember he is taken).

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What are some of the lessons to learn from them and other happily married couples for long term relationship and marriage success?

Keep It Real

Get Out of Dodge

Keeping It Real:

One of the differences in marriage versus early dating is that a husband and wife will see each other when they look their worst.  When you have the flu.  Runny red nose.  Worshiping the porcelain god….  And they still love you.  Now this is in contrast to those ensembles we were in our early dates.  And yes, I agree with Custom Formal wear designer, Vicki Hanson, “that life is fun, dress for it.” And yet there are days and times when a ball gown, full make up, dress pumps, or a gentleman’s evening jacket are not called for.  We want a spouse to love us completely, even when we are our most vulnerable looking.

Additionally, we need to remember to

Get Out of Dodge:

At the end of the weekend, the end of the work week, the end of a tough or busy day, for whatever reason, couples need to continue to expand their lives and get out of the house, go out for a drink and practice their body language flirting, wear a broad shoulders accentuating jacket, gentlemen, and where the ladies can dress up a bit, feel special like on an early romantic date.  And simply get out of the house.

Indeed, the wooing behavior of early courtship couples is a great long-term success Relationship Success tip for married couples.  To nurture their continued cherishing of each other.

So when flu season hits, you still feeling loving, tender, and intimate together.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert

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  • Mister P September 28, 2009, 2:48 AM

    Good practical tips to keep the flame!

    Bert (alter ego- Mister P)

  • Lynn Lane September 28, 2009, 4:57 AM

    I’ve been married for 25 years and I must agree. Keep it real and Get away every chance you have.

    Lynn Lane


  • Rob September 28, 2009, 4:36 AM

    They’re one of my favorite married couples too!

    And getting married by Elvis is another important consideration. Vowing to always be each others hunka hunka burning love forever is sure to lead to marital stability…

    Seize the Day,

  • Robert Martin September 28, 2009, 6:44 AM

    I have been married for 16 years, and I couldn’t agree more. Have a date night. Do something special. Treat your spouse like you would a new flame.

    Robert Martin

  • Jose Escalante September 28, 2009, 8:47 AM

    Excellent advice April

    Jose Escalante

  • Martin September 28, 2009, 2:25 PM

    By “Get out of the house”, I assume you mean together?!
    And do you know how difficult it is to find a babysitter?!

    I’m all for married couples carrying on dating (each other).

  • Steve Chambers September 28, 2009, 7:18 PM

    I’d say selection was the number one criteria. You have to pick the right partner. After that both partners need to keep it real and keep it fun.

    And thank you, we had a great time too.

    Steve Chambers
    Business to Business Sales Trainer

  • Martin O'Connor September 28, 2009, 6:46 PM

    I think women more than men want to get out of Dodge, whether it’s the house or a city.

  • April Braswell September 28, 2009, 7:49 PM

    “Dancing Queen… feel the beat of the tamberine… oh YEAH!” encore, encore!

  • April Braswell September 28, 2009, 7:52 PM

    Sans judgment. The Get Out of Dodge is a NEWNESS attribute. If we neglect that NEWNESS component in a RELATIONSHIP, married men will look for that then via extra-curricular affairs. So, men DO need NEWNESS as well, just…. logically minded they often do not fully REALIZE it.

    thank you so much for stopping by and commenting at my dating and relationship success blog!


  • Kate McKeon September 28, 2009, 9:39 PM

    Va-va-voom! I wish my parents would take your advice. It helps to reconnect through date night.


  • Katie September 28, 2009, 9:50 PM

    If you keep up the weekly dates you won’t fall out of practice with the flirting. I hear so many couples sound lackluster about their love life. It doesn’t have to be that way!


  • Keri Eagan September 29, 2009, 2:24 AM

    Great advice as usual. Body language flirting is fantastic for added spark.

    Keri Eagan

  • John Ho September 29, 2009, 2:46 AM


    Good, bad & the ulgy are all in full display when you have a full time real realationship.

    So selective hearing and selective memeory is highly recommended for life long relationship.

    Otherwise, it’s just like caffeine or cocaine fix. The initial utopian feelings just wears off consistently.

    John Ho

  • Vick September 29, 2009, 5:44 AM

    I can relate to this after 31 years of marriage. Sometimes we let little things that don’t even matter get in the way of keeping a connection. Communication is so vital to keep the flame burning.

    Vicki http://www.bridal-threads.com

  • Jennifer Battaglino September 29, 2009, 10:03 AM

    Beautiful post. Made me think of my own husband and how you grow closer through the intimacy as well as the hard times because it’s the true test of whether you are going to stick together. When I couldn’t lift my head in the hospital and he was feeding me jello…now that’s love. Ok, enough babbling.

    So Ms. Braswell, hope you got my email the other day! 🙂 I will try you again to meet up later in the week. Let me know what’s good for you and I loved your question about tinnitus…it will be in the upcoming blog.

    You’re the best!

    The Harwood Center – Tinnitus, Chronic Illness, Fears, and Anxiety

  • April Braswell September 29, 2009, 4:11 PM

    Hi Jen,

    thank you. that was really sweet of you.

    Babble away. Because that is really true. I had a related point in my post about Farrah Fawcett and Ryan O’Neal’s Real Love of each other:

    So when you couldn’t hold your head up and your DH fed you jello YES THAT is Real Love. And the kind we want. With another human being. Imperfect, too. ♥


  • Martin O'Connor September 29, 2009, 3:51 PM

    The advice on getting a second and generic e-mail address is sound advice and something that could be overlooked.

    Martin O’Connor

  • Lisa McLellan September 29, 2009, 8:30 PM

    Great couple – aren’t they?!!! Perfect match if there ever was one. He’s handsome, she’s gorgeous (and so photogenic), and such nice people too!

    My husband and I almost never go out together without the kids. We always take them. We have even taken them out with us on Valentines Day. We need to get out of Dodge – alone!

    Lisa McLellan
    Child Care Expert,
    Babysitting Services, Babysitting Tips, Babysitters, Nannies

  • Jim September 29, 2009, 8:46 PM

    Nothing like a little vacation, weekly, to keep things good.


  • James Mason September 29, 2009, 8:39 PM

    Good idea to just get out and away for a while.

    I am going to try to do that more.

    James Mason

  • Mister P September 30, 2009, 2:09 AM

    Right on target with the not looking (or acting your best).

    Good advice!

    Bert (alter ego- Mister P)

  • Darryl Pace September 30, 2009, 3:14 PM


    Solid advice for the married folks! I especially like the recommendation to “get out of dodge” occasionally, and engage in the “wooing behavior of early courtship”. That keeps things cooking!

    Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace

  • JJ Jalopy October 2, 2009, 2:40 PM

    Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. 🙂

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