Relationship Coach Tips on Romance Longevity: Fertilize the Soil of Your Romantic Garden
Relationship Coaching Advice For Romance Longevity: Fertilizing the Soil of Your Romance’s Garden
Relationship Coaching Tips on Romance Longevity: Fertilize the Soil of Your Romance’s Garden
Relationship Coach Advice for Romance Longevity: Fertilizing the Soil of Your Romantic Garden
Part of my dating and relationship expertise is yes, I have been researching the topic for over 20 years, conduct field research, and I integrate scientific study to the advise and tips I provide. In addition to fun, zest, and a sense of humor. It’s part of my uniqueness as a coach. Yes, I integrate my Sales and Product Marketing executive background. UK’s leading Consumer Marketing Expert and I like to compare and contrast our fields because there really is a fascinating and somewhat amusing correlation between the two.
Studies of “Pair Bonding” as the academics like to call married couples have revealed some fascinating information about some of the traits of successful long term romantic relationships.
There is the initial chemistry which I mentioned the other day in my Dating and Relationship Behavior Contrast blog post. So much of that is a combination of psyschology and pheromones. We need to be neither too close to the target’s family pheromone signature as to be TABOO. Additionally, we do need to have sufficient pheromone signature family similarity as to be attractive. Then we do feel that surge of attraction chemistry.
However, once in a relationship, whether in the Second Stage of Dating, Early Relationship Stage, when you have moved beyond Initial Attraction. Or for married or life partner couples as well. What is one of their essential needs?
To NOT Get Bored.
Oh not, most dreaded by so many in cultures in North America, European Union, and Australia.
We crave periodic introduction of elements of things which are NEW. They stimulate another section of our brain. We need some adrenaline surge or we feel bored and trapped. Yes, that craving can lead to marital infidelity, or it can lead to dating relationships breaking up.
However, to bring in elements of newness does not require bungee jumping levels of adrenaline. Walks on a stormy night can increase adrenaline and increase feelings of arousal, actually a touch of arousing fear, in a good way. And we will then associate and attach that to our partner.
Introducing a new entre at dinner periodically is necessary least we move into a food rut, which The Art of Good Eating would certainly assist us with. However, couples actually require more newness than that. Yes, a new restaurant. Yes, a different vacation or weekend getaway destination. Perhaps some new hiking trails. Perhaps a Salsa Lesson and quick trip to RIO in Las Vegas. Or if you always go to Vegas, perhaps a ski trip to Tahoe next time. Read books. Share them with each other. Couples Communicaton Skills Workshops.
Even in these frugal times, you can introduce elements of newness into your couple. Picnics are free and so is hiking. Mix it up a bit.
How often is necessary to introduce elements of newness into your couple?
Something significant at least once every 6 weeks. Maybe for you, every 4 weeks.
Small things can be introduced almost once every week or two. Food newnesses. Also, seasonal food changes.
We all need the stimulation. And when you do, you foster greater long term intimacy and continual growth in your couple and in each other. Making life and your relationship more intimately loving and fulfilling.
And isn’t that what we are all craving?
Happy Dating and Relationships!