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Christian Singles New Year’s Eve Social Options

If you’re a Christian single and you’re looking for social options to celebrate New Year’s Eve which will draw a targeted crowd of other Christian singles, you’re in for a treat!

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Singles Dance

It used to be really had to find and locate social options for Christian Singles. Now, if you’re a follower at all of my long-time blog, then you’ll know that about 99.9% of my dating advice and tactics while targeting a mainstream Midlife Singles audience actually fits a Christian Single audience. Why, you might wonder? Because I’m Christian and invariably I attract (surprise, surprise, surprise, because guess Who’s Providential Hand is guiding all of this? Yup. You know who!) a predominantly Christian Dating Coaching clientele. They may not have a Scarlett C emblazoned on their foreheads, but they are both Christian and being Christian is quite important to them.

Another nice secondary attribute of the Christian Social options for New Year’s Eve is the events are typically sober events. It’s both to host an event where connecting and socializing is primary rather than their hosting body earning a lot of money selling alcohol and because the hosting group doesn’t have a liquor license. Just makes it easy to choose.

In San Francisco oh so many years ago I used to attend an Annual AA/Al-Anon dance because it was super fun and focused on dancing and socializing, and because I knew the crowd wouldn’t be falling over before midnight. It was hosted at a Unitarian Church. Because it was an AA/Al-Anon groups hosting it, it wasn’t Christian per se, but a lot of the folks attending were Christian leaning. Keep an eye out where you are for any similar events where you live in case there’s an event akin to that where you live.

Here in Orange County, I’ve been getting invitations for New Year’s dances for over a month. I feel like a scene out of the late ’80s classic romantic comedy When Harry Met Sally when for single women in their 30s, your sortah social proof exams were New Year’s Eve and Valentine’s Day. Having a DATE for each was your social proof, “See! I am, too, attractive, sexy, and appealing!” Because pretty much to have a DATE each of those nights meant he was your BOYFRIEND, not your boyfriend, or friend, or the guy you kindah sortah seeing a little bit right now. BOYFRIEND. Talk about social pressure.

In Orange County, we’ve got Biblical Christian Singles and their dance in Santa Ana. It’s $50 at the door which is all-inclusive of some great food choices. That is a terrific price when so many other events start at over $100 for the evening.

Another great attribute of this dance? 99% of the singles attended solo without a date and had a great time!

From the host:

Everything included for ONE LOW PRICE!

RING IN THE NEW YEAR!

Last year 260 people attended our fun NYE Party!

Pay just $50 at the door via cash or card. Everything included for ONE LOW PRICE. CALL 1-800-838-3006 if you have any questions since this is probably your first time attending.

9th Annual OC ✮ NEW YEAR’S EVE✮ SINGLES BASH 🎶 DJ & Live Band 🎤♪ Karaoke & Midnight Toast & Countdown 🎉 on MONDAY, DECEMBER 31 from 7:30pm to 12:30am. Come celebrate with So Cal Christian Singles. All Singles & Couples Welcome. Table Reservations Available.

99% SINGLES ATTEND SOLO: YOU DON’T NEED A DATE TO ATTEND!

☆ KARAOKE ☆ DJ & LIVE BAND ☆
2 DANCE FLOORS ☆ 2 DANCING ROOMS
☆ HOT APPETIZERS ☆ PARTY FAVORS ☆
MIDNIGHT COUNTDOWN & TOAST ☆ MORE [NOTE: I am not 100% sure if this is Martinelli’s Sparkling Cider or alcohol. Phone to make sure if it matters to you.]

MENU

Italian Ravioli, Meatballs, Vegetable Pasta, Mixed Green Salad & Dressings, Pasta Salad, Fruit & Vegetable Trays, Cheese & Crackers, Rolls and other Appetizers. Assortment of Desserts and Beverages. Arrive on time, served until gone.

PAUL CAVIN ONE LIFE BAND (Main Room)
☞5-Piece Band☞ 50’s to the 90’s Dance Music
DJ JOHN (Fireside Room)
☞Top 40 & Variety of Fun Dance Music☜
DJ ERROL ♪ KARAOKE ROOM (Fireside Room)
☞ 1000’s of Songs to Sing☜

All for ONE unbelievable LOW PRICE!
☆ 2 Dancing Rooms & Karaoke
☆ 2 Dance Floors
☆ Complimentary Hot Appetizers
☆ Midnight Toast & Countdown
☆ Party Favors & Noisemakers
☆ Dance Lesson Mixer Icebreaker
☆ Fun NYE Party Atmosphere
☆ Free Photo Booth (I’m thinking Selfies! Social Media Content! IG, FB, and Twitter, oh my!)
☆ Semi-Formal & Dressy Party Attire

LOCATION

Calvary Church of Santa Ana
1010 N. Tustin Ave
Santa Ana, CA 92705
Ample Free Parking

Happy New Year to you all!

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April

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The 15 Minute Relationship Fix Delivers a Super Helpful Guide for Couples Seeking to Deepen Intimacy

If you want to create deeper emotional intimacy with your partner or spouse, this is the Relationship Book for the two of you

The 15 Minute Relationship Fix, by Joel Block, PhD

Dr. Block has distilled multiple decades of his professional clinical counseling with couples in trouble and in crisis – sufficient to their seeking out rock solid professional expert couples counseling – into practical and manageable into tactics to use in 15-minute spurts. That is something which every couple who is seriously interested and perhaps even committed and dedicated to improving and renewing the intimacy in their relationship.

Doing this work, not just reading the book, will transform your love relationship.

15 minutes is so doable. It doesn’t require a 3 weekend conference you have attend before you can even start to have the tools to begin the process.

Plus, these are not just personal story anecdotal information packaged nicely as I too often see in current books. Dr. Block’s depth of expertise is evidenced throughout. There’s meat on them there bones!

This 98 page book, has a quality and meaty 6 page introduction which contributes to the content of the book. So, you’re really getting 104 pages of substance delivered with warmth and humor. I seriously loved the cartoon and chapter starter illustrations. They added a lot and kept that sense of humor flowing throughout the book, that sense and perspective of a strong sense of humor, which sustains couples throughout a long-time love committed relationship.

Without being too insubstantial, Block does interweave humor to lighten what could otherwise be misconstrued as “heavy” work along the way. Delving deep is not easy, and as a culture, many of us weren’t raised to do so. It’s only as Positive Psychology moved into the mainstream in the past 40ish years that we regularly talk about such topics at the dinner table and throughout our daily lives.

The book starts with a marvelous quote from The Velveteen Rabbit (I still have the hard cover my oldest friend gave me years ago. Even without having been able to have children, I’ve kept it all these years.) which my generation grew up upon. I loved that book and many reference it for showing vulnerability. Citing that wonderful quote at the very beginning sets the tone of vulnerability and softness, sharing our soft underbelly with our partner for the whole book. To do so means risking it all, risking rejection from who we most deeply crave acceptance, approval, and appreciation.

The 15 Minute Relationship Fix, back cover, Dr Joel Block

However, don’t be fooled into thinking that just because the 15-minute exercises are brief that they are shallow or ephemeral. Block’s work requires both parties in the couple delve deeply and genuinely share of themselves, thus being truly seen, yielding deepened intimacy, caring, and true love. Love is a choice and requires work, personal work. Block provides an accessible and meaty way for couples to do just that and reap the rewards of the love, acceptance and deep appreciation we all yearn for.

While the examples and illustrations given presuppose a heterosexual love relationship, if you are in an LGBTQ couple relationship, this book is a super useful and meaty guide for your coupledom’s intimacy as well. You’ll need to transpose just a little, but because Dr. Block’s prescriptions and tactics are romantic relationship centered, this book is applicable for all romantic couples.

I really love this book and Dr. Block’s style. If you’re anything like me, once you discover an author and expert in a field and you adore his/her work, you seek to read everything you can. Have no fear! This is not Dr. Block’s only book. He has authored over 20 books on Love and Sex, so we’ll both have plenty to read in the months ahead after reading and implanting this one!

Additionally, since it is so helpful and practical, any Pre-Marital Counselor of any of the faith communities could use this with engaged couples of any age. Mental Health Professionals could have their own copy in their Resource Center as well as recommend it to couples treated.

I highly recommend this book. Even if you are not yet in a committed relationship, reading and implementing the tactics therein will better equip you for a relationship when that crosses your path. Therefore, this is a great book if you are single or in a couple relationship as well as makes a great gift to any of your friends or loved ones seeking or entering one. Think: Holiday gift, birthday present, anniversary, wedding present, engagement gift, Valentine’s Day gift to yourself or each other. Singles and couples of any religion(s) or none could readily use and apply this book. You could use it as part of your couple’s regular devotional time together.

I received a copy from the author for an honest review. And honesty, as I said, I love it and look forward to reading and discovering more of his other books. I bet you will, too.

You can pick up a copy at your local Barnes and Noble or grab a copy easily here at Amazon:
The 15-Minute Relationship Fix.

 

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Allen Delivers Humorous Takes on Modern Life That Makes Me Laugh Out Loud in Watching Grandma Circle the Drain

This is another one of Denver/Vail based humor writer Allen R. Smith‘s funny books, injecting humor into our super fast paced 21st century lives where it seems that we have more conversations with our smart phones than with other human beings.

As a dating coach, naturally, I was drawn to Allen’s chapters poking at the 21st century dating contrivance of Online Dating. It is Chapter 3, Expelled from Match.com. The title of the chapter alone seems like a parody dating back to the Garden of Eden for folks of a Judaeo Christian heritage. Perhaps Allen is poking even more fun at our funny and odd dating mores making Match.com akin to Yahweh from whom we are all asking and seeking a Life Partner romantic relationship online.

Online dating, the very world where yes it seems that everyone is Single, Rich, Under 39 years old, and has a perfect body. What a riot the funny story that Allen tells of his adventures at seeking romantic companionship and dates at Match online. Of course, in keeping with Allen’s sense of humor and writing style, he takes what is already a high comedy potential topic – Online Dating – with all of the gaffes, social faux pas, and vanities we are prone to, and then he stretches it even further into the realm of hyperbole. If you can read the chapter on internet dating without splitting a gut, I want to see the video. I will forewarn you now. Do not eat food or drink any soda, water, coffee, or tea while you are reading his chapter on Internet Dating. You will risk your health and potential visit to the emergency room ER either spitting it across the room and making a mess or merely choking, losing, oxygen and having your face turn purple.

Of course Allen teases us further playing on his having planted the familiar cultural metaphor of the Expulsion from the Garden of Eden in Chapter 3 when he continues in the world of modern dating in Chapter 7 on The Ever-Changing Dating Game. He gives a hilarious overview of courtship and dating through the years and then takes us into the all-to-true-to life modern phenomena of Texting. He parallels 20th century courtship and love letters in which tender hearted lovers shares their soul and the deepest yearnings of their heart to now where we have 140 characters to articulate and share the innermost desires of our souls. It is a riot and Allen’s humorous perspective is contagious.

Chapter 18 introduces the even faster dating, mating, and courtship rituals of Speed Dating and further modern acronym while Chapter 24 poses the truth of “The Real Secret to Using On-Line Dating.” Allen jokes here in such a true-to-life manner he actually is quite accurate about how modern singles can behave. “I haven’t been on a date in over five years… so it’s easy to understand why I’ve grown comfortable with sidling up to women [at many dating sites]… while wallowing in the safety that only deception and miles of distance can provide.” In this section parodying and satirizing modern dating behaviors Allen focuses on the phrases and aphorisms of Internet Dating Profiles. You will positively giggle!

Watching Grandma Circle the Drain is a marvelous and outright funny look at various attributes of modern life from Allen’s dry and parodying style. Each of the chapters is really only a few pages long, so this is a book to keep around your living room table or give to a friend for a Holiday present when you need to inject some dry wit perspective into your daily life, and who couldn’t use a few more laugh in their day?

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