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Allen Delivers Humorous Takes on Modern Life That Makes Me Laugh Out Loud in Watching Grandma Circle the Drain

This is another one of Denver/Vail based humor writer Allen R. Smith‘s funny books, injecting humor into our super fast paced 21st century lives where it seems that we have more conversations with our smart phones than with other human beings.

As a dating coach, naturally, I was drawn to Allen’s chapters poking at the 21st century dating contrivance of Online Dating. It is Chapter 3, Expelled from Match.com. The title of the chapter alone seems like a parody dating back to the Garden of Eden for folks of a Judaeo Christian heritage. Perhaps Allen is poking even more fun at our funny and odd dating mores making Match.com akin to Yahweh from whom we are all asking and seeking a Life Partner romantic relationship online.

Online dating, the very world where yes it seems that everyone is Single, Rich, Under 39 years old, and has a perfect body. What a riot the funny story that Allen tells of his adventures at seeking romantic companionship and dates at Match online. Of course, in keeping with Allen’s sense of humor and writing style, he takes what is already a high comedy potential topic – Online Dating – with all of the gaffes, social faux pas, and vanities we are prone to, and then he stretches it even further into the realm of hyperbole. If you can read the chapter on internet dating without splitting a gut, I want to see the video. I will forewarn you now. Do not eat food or drink any soda, water, coffee, or tea while you are reading his chapter on Internet Dating. You will risk your health and potential visit to the emergency room ER either spitting it across the room and making a mess or merely choking, losing, oxygen and having your face turn purple.

Of course Allen teases us further playing on his having planted the familiar cultural metaphor of the Expulsion from the Garden of Eden in Chapter 3 when he continues in the world of modern dating in Chapter 7 on The Ever-Changing Dating Game. He gives a hilarious overview of courtship and dating through the years and then takes us into the all-to-true-to life modern phenomena of Texting. He parallels 20th century courtship and love letters in which tender hearted lovers shares their soul and the deepest yearnings of their heart to now where we have 140 characters to articulate and share the innermost desires of our souls. It is a riot and Allen’s humorous perspective is contagious.

Chapter 18 introduces the even faster dating, mating, and courtship rituals of Speed Dating and further modern acronym while Chapter 24 poses the truth of “The Real Secret to Using On-Line Dating.” Allen jokes here in such a true-to-life manner he actually is quite accurate about how modern singles can behave. “I haven’t been on a date in over five years… so it’s easy to understand why I’ve grown comfortable with sidling up to women [at many dating sites]… while wallowing in the safety that only deception and miles of distance can provide.” In this section parodying and satirizing modern dating behaviors Allen focuses on the phrases and aphorisms of Internet Dating Profiles. You will positively giggle!

Watching Grandma Circle the Drain is a marvelous and outright funny look at various attributes of modern life from Allen’s dry and parodying style. Each of the chapters is really only a few pages long, so this is a book to keep around your living room table or give to a friend for a Holiday present when you need to inject some dry wit perspective into your daily life, and who couldn’t use a few more laugh in their day?

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Alicia Muñoz No More Fighting Leads Couples to Stronger Romantic Relationships

Alicia Muñoz, LPC’s first book, No More Fighting, the title is almost a misnomer. From that title, you might assume this book is all about helping couples who are having rock ’em sock ’em verbally yelling and screaming at each other therapy. 

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Alicia Munoz LPC No More Fighting Relationship Book

If upon reading the book’s title you had those sort of thoughts, too, you would be wrong as was I when I first read about this book.

Instead, what his wonderful book has about 255 page of a full litany of Romantic Couple Relationship issues each well addressed, complete with a weekly 20 minutes exercise for the two of you to do together. There are 52 chapters, each of which is about 3-4 pages of wisdom, additional resources for going more deeply into that topic, and an exercise for couples to do together. While this couple’s book is from everything I have read targets heterosexual couples, LGBTQ couples could easily apply pretty much all of the lessons and exercises as well. The case study examples cite heterosexual couples for the examples.

The Section themes, each of which are covered by 2-3 chapters, address almost every kind of issue couples will have to face or discuss at some point in their life long relationship:

Self-Care
Communication
Your Partner’s World
Intimacy Issues
Taking Responsibility
Love Rituals
Self-Esteem
Life Philosophy
Social Styles
Attachment Issues
Power and Control
Ruptures
The Art of Repair
Money Matters
Coping with Stress
Parenting
Love Languages
Sexuality
Relationship Wreckers
Monogamy and Beyond
General Inspiration

Resources and References and Online Articles and Websites each offer a great selection of more books to read to cover some of the topics more in depth.

Ms Muñoz provides a wonderful resource book essential for every married couple’s personal library. Despite the title leading the casual glancer to presuppose this is only a couples’ counseling guide for couples deeply enmeshed in an argumentative dynamic, it really takes a very positive and proactive approach to building communication and intimacy for every couple. You could wisely give this as a Holiday present, anniversary gift, wedding present, or Valentine’s Day gift to every couple you know. The title makes it sound critical to give it. But that is not the warm and positive tone of the book whatsoever.

Every therapist and counseling center would be wise to add this to their Reading Area and Resource Center. Every Pre Marital Faith Based Counselor – Pastor, Priest, Rabbi – would be well served to own it, read it, reference it, and recommend it to every newly engaged couple to equip them well for a strong marriage.

As a Dating and Relationship Coach and Counselor to individuals and couples, I was delighted to find Ms. Muñoz referenced the stalwarts of Relationship studies, John Gottman aka (truly) the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert and the Gottman Institute’s work, John Chapman’s Love Languages, and Harville Hendrix’s IMAGO and Getting the Love You Want. The additional resources and bibliography are additionally rewarding to add to your reading list if you have not done so already.

I highly recommend this book to any couples seeking greater love and intimacy and those who counsel and serve them.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

 

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How to Get the Guy to Stop Messaging and Ask the Woman Out on a First Date: Lob the LEAD WEIGHTED HANDKERCHIEF
Feminine Dating Advice for Women

How Can A Woman Be Feminine in Getting a Guy to Stop Texting and Ask for the Date?

I hear this question all the time at my dating workshops and in email questions from single women. “April, how can I get the guy to stop messaging me and actually ask me for a date? What am I doing wrong? I don’t want to be too critical with him and turn him off. I just want to get to meeting him sometime this month. Is there something I can do?

Secondarily, a lot of modern women who are successful in business and have amazing professional lives. We’re been reading and learning about expressing a feminine energy and side of ourselves which is genuine for romance, the softer side of us than we often put forth in our careers.

Same Energy Like 2 Magnets Cannot Click

Ever since The Rules and Getting to I Do, we know expressing our feminine energy is literally magnetically attractive to men. And then when we run the same energy as they in romance as we do in in business, our “masculine” or Yang Energy, that it’s like two magnets against each other. They cannot connect because they are the very same energy.

Here in at a Women’s Conference in the San Francisco Bay Area by the San Francisco Airport in Burlingame, April demonstrates one of her signature moves demonstrating ways women can express being feminine in online dating and still get the ball rolling to move to a First Date. Ladies, we are being feminine and proactive, not passive wall flowers, waiting and hoping he’ll just magically know we’re ready and receptive to his overtures to ask for a First Date.

Guys, there are always a few smart single men who sagely bop into the posts which I cite as Dating Advice for Marriage Minded Women so they can better understand what can sometimes feel like that alien species, the opposite sex – women, what are we thinking?

Especially over at my YouTube channel, I get men chiming into the comments at the Dating Advice for Women videos (a lot of my advice and content is relevant for both single men and women), “April, men need to learn this, too.” Indeed, because it’s only the unsophisticated who have never done any Personal Growth and Personal Development work who expect their partner to be able to read their minds. Ladies, no, just because he loves you does not mean he should be able to read your mind. I hear it again and again and again, women kvetching about how, “If he really loved me, he’d know. He should know me by now.” That is a completely unrealistic expectation that no man, however wonderful, can live up to. Don’t get into that behavior now while dating, ok?

So they can tell what she means when does this sort of move in online dating. “Oh! Hey! She’s telling me softly and clearly that’s she wants me to ask her out! Hey! She’s flirting signaling to me she’d probably say YES if I asked her on a date. I wonder what’s she doing this Thursday…?”

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