One of the issues online dating coaching clients approach me with for when they want to work with me is they are often typically of single Boomers, that is single men and women over the age of 45 years old.
Often when they do so, it is after a major event has occurred in their lives. They are single again after emerging from a divorce. They are single again after the break up of a romantic relationship. They are single now after a major change and upheaval in their lives like major weight loss (yeah!) or a move to another region than where they formerly had a social network already established.
They are looking to relaunch themselves. And also they want some coaching in the steps to take.
The first step I recommend for them is to do the equivalent of get a facial and manicure pedicure for women. Read and do the simple action steps in Moving On: Dump Your Relationship Baggage and Make Room for the Love of Your Life. It’s like preparing the wall surface before you paint. It’s like a marvelous microdermal abrasion preparation of your skin before applying make up. Like you would wash your face and moisturize it first, not just slather on make-up on top of what you wore yesterday, right?
Sort of like with all the Coronas and Tequilla you drank yesterday you would drink more water TODAY to flush your system.
Singles who don’t do this sort of Grief Recovery work before they go into their next relationship and seeking to attract that then bring significant emotional baggage. After any kind of a divorce, death of a spouse, end of a romantic relationship leaves us with mixed feelings and emotions. However we felt “She done me wrong/ he done me wrong” is the baggage we bring in. It’s not to argue about being wrong or right or what you learned from the relationship about yourself that you don’t want to do again. It’s to complete the emotions and pains from the relationship, to reduce your baggage, so you can attract the kind of love relationship that fits YOU.
In the next few days, I’ll provide some more of the tools I give to single baby boomer dating clients after they have done their relationship prep work.
Happy Dating and Relationships,