You’ve all seen them
The online dating profiles that someone just THREW UP in, oh, like, mmm an instant with no forethought this afternoon.
The dreadful photo.
They are gawking.
Showing the most awkward moment of their smile.
Or yes, wait, my personal favorite, mostly men (guyz? WHAT were you thinking? your other, yes still single buds told you this was ok. They were wrong), the cell phone photo of you posing in front of the bathroom mirror….
The women’s whose text whines about men…
Oh my WORD!
Didn’t you do any forethought? Didn’t you think about what you were doing first?
Well, no actually, clearly not.
*sigh*
OK
Let me help you out here.
You will actually need to do a little preparation before you barf up a internet dating profile this afternoon, or seriously folks, it will be just dreadful. “If you think I’m cute, hit me up,” is NOT a profile description that is going to garner a lot of female interest, guys.
Your profile essay should run about 3-5 paragraphs. Longer than that and appear desperate. Shorter than that and you will receive few responses unless you are Angelina Jolie.
This afternoon, or even better on a Sunday or Monday afternoon which is a great time to publish your profile, start gathering information about yourself to include some reflection of this in your profile:
Some things to consider…..
(get out a sheet of paper, start writing…)
Marital Status
Single Never Married
Divorced
Separated
Widowed
You job
Career
Body Type
Children – yes, you will need to contemplate this
have them
how many
ages
do you want more
had enough?
Willing to date someone with children?
or not?
Hobbies?
how do you spend your time?
Don’t just say you hike…
Tell me you love to hike Mt. Charleston or Angel Island
OK, doing that list and preparing at least a little will help!
I will discuss the ALL important Internet Dating Profile MAIN PROFILE PHOTO tomorrow.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
{ 28 comments… read them below or add one }
This is great advice. A little preparation…a spin here, a spin there and we can present the exact image we want to present.
Steve Chambers, B2B Sale Trainer
Barfing up your profile . . . LOL
The “if you think I’m cute, hit me up….” reminds me of a time when fella walked up to me at an outdoor concert and said,
“I’m cute, you’re hot, let’s go f–k.”
Um, yeah . . . thanks? He stands out in my mind but that conversation didn’t get him anywhere. Just like these profiles, did he really think it would?
Katie
Hard to follow up Katie’s mental image at the rock concert, but someone has to…
(hey it probably works once in a while)
April’s advice is right. As with most things we need to think about what our market wants to hear. And they don’t want to hear about us except as it relates to them…
Seize the Day,
Rob
Emergency Preparedness For the 21st Century Family
Excellent advice. What seems so common sense is anything but! Thank you for educating!
Kate
Yup. I once wrote a profile for a dating site. Once. And only because a freind of mine was really into internet dating and waived a Dr Phil book in front of me saying it would be good fun. I didn’t have advice like this, so up went the profile. My freind went to read it (it wasn’t up very long) and said it was fine, but I’d used the word “stuff” about eight or nine times on the page.
Keri Eagan
Anything Alternative
A little planning & preparation ahead means more likley smooth (or at least less rough) sailing ahead.
To thsoe who over prepare and over plan, then the word of advice would be:
Do NOT wait for the “prefect” moment as there’s none and you just waste your precious time thru’ procrastination.
John Ho
Numerology Expert Helps Understanding Personality for Better Influence & Persuasion
This reminds me of a story about Vince Lombardi. As I heard it he would start the first session of training camp each year with the words “Gentlemen, this is a football.”
The point was Lombardi believed in the basics, and that approach seemed to work for him and The Packers.
We shouldn’t get away from the basics in anything.
Looking forward to the next post to get some tips on taking pictures for small places like avatars, which I need to do.
Martin O’Connor
http://smallbusinessdesigncenter.com
April,
I think you have it all covered. I have no doubt this prep work and though will get you a great looking , informative profile that will work.
Lynn Lane
Success Strategies For Life
You would think that people would put a little more care and effort into such a thing but apparently not…
Anthony
http://www.anthonylemme.com
You would think that people would put a little more care and effort into such a thing but apparently not…
Anthony
http://www.anthonylemme.com
P.S. – Sorry, forgot to tell you great post!
I have a friend who met her soon to be fiance on an onlone dating service. I’m curious to see how they both presented themselves on their profile. She had told me that her search was a lot easier than she expected.
MissMentor
It always pays to put thought into things. Especially something that represents you to people and gives them a first impression.
Good advice April
Bert (alter ego- Mister P)
MisterP.org/blog
Oh yes Dating Diva, do help those poor souls out there that have so much to offer, yet are completely unable to advertise it appropriately.
I loved your examples!
Lisa McLellan
Child Care Expert,
Babysitting Services, Babysitting Tips, Babysitters, Nannies
Excellent info for the singles out there looking to make a good impression via the web.
Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace
Perhaps a sales letter approach would work:
- “Finally Revealed…Your Ideal Soul Mate”!
- “1 Big Reason Why I’m Your Ideal Man”!!
- “Discover The Inside Secrets That Will Blow You Away”!!!
Maybe not!
http://www.martin-wright.com
Hi Martin!
thank you for stopping by my blog and commenting!
Just we will have NO! blowing going on in my posts, ok?
that would not be polished and poised, n’est pas?
April
You make me happy that I don’t have to think that hard anymore. Fries my brain to easily.
As usual, great advice. And great interview today!
Jen B
PS – my email down so I will text you in the morn
The Harwood Center – Tinnitus, Chronic Illness, Fears, and Anxiety
I don’t know April, it sounds like a lot of work. Can’t I just pay to hire and expert to write it for me?
Wow – what a list! Looks like the Dating and Relationship Coach has it covered!
Pam
Expert Houston Retirement Planning & Wealth Management Services
Hi Greg,
indeed writing your profile for you is part of the package of services I provide as a coach. For some men who want to delegate more because of their super busy executive lives, I offer prestige level matchmaking services as well. Many of singles want an expert to do that for them, indeed.
April
I find it interesting to see how marketing principles apply. Plus “the cell phone photo of you posing in front of the bathroom mirror….” is hilarious.
Jose Escalante
http://www.joseescalante.com
Awesome process. You will make a lot of people happy with your Online Dating Advice.
Robert Martin
http://www.carbuyinghq.com
I think it may have been that hit on Katie in the rock concert.
I thought it was suave.
Hi JJ,
Thanks for stopping by and commenting at my blog. You are hysterically funny. Must be the hat that makes it so.
April
Nice post, April. I’ve been trying my hand at dating lately as well. Thanks for the inspiration to do more to date more
x
great advice April!
I think most single people launch their internet dating profiles with very little thinking…and you can really tell when someone is prepared. You make a great job also about giving dating advice about what should be written and what not.
Hi April the idea of preparing a bit first before you post a dating profile make a lot of sense. Thansk for the tips
Hi April – yeah a lot of the profiles I’ve seen it looks like the girl just popped it up on bored afternoon. Put some more thought into it people.