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Jennifer Lopez Sex Tape Scandal – Lessons for Singles and Married Couples

Jennifer Lopez Sex Tape Scandal – Lessons for Singles and Married Couples


The current Jennifer Lopez Sex Tape Scandal which has the world abuzz provides a tremendous lesson for both dating singles and married couples.

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The sex tape scandal involves Lopez’s honeymoon antics with her first husband, Ojani Nao.  Jennifer Lopez has been married 3 times and is presently married to Marc Anthony with whom she has fraternal twin children.

Marriages may come and go, your divorced spouse is forever.

For singles, remember that the person you are dating now, in evolutionary thinking, will be in the community tribe in your area after you break up should you not marry each other.  Whatever you say, whatever you do, every photo you take together, will live on in memory and with all of the wonderful electronics toys out there, might have been captured and recorded for posterity.  And others in your tribe could hear about it on some level.

Men are highly visually stimulated and are often requesting to photograph or video record intimate moments and intimate moments with their partners.  Just know that if you agree, that image is digitally captured and stored on your smart phone or computer.  And also know that when it is transferred from mobile device to computer, it goes over the internet.  Those images are at risk for being hacked, captured and shared.  This can come back to bite you either socially within your community.  It could end up in adult oriented groups at MySpace.  It could go up on Twitter or someone’s page at Facebook.

For marrieds, you may be darlingly romantically in-love with your spouse or life partner now.  However, divorce does end close to 50% of marriages, which does not even include tracking the ending of life partner non-marriage relationships.  Many relationships over the years do indeed end.  Some amicably and some not so amicably.

Your ex-wife or ex-husband will be your former spouse for the rest of your life.  You will have that relationship for many years to come.  Be careful.

Protecting Your Children: While talking about intimate topics is something every parent wants to do with their children, having that conversation should be well thought out and planned.

Prenuptial Agreement: If you two agreed to the photo taking and video recording of any of your intimate moments, just remember, these will all be part of the separation and divorce agreement.  You might want to include this as a topic in your prenuptial agreement early on while you are feeling amicable and adult in your communications.  Least you think, “Oh that could never happen to me, we’re in love,” just remember people do stupid and foolish things while aroused with jealousy or anger which they would not do while behaving rationally and more emotionally calm.

Do be careful, and most of all, protect yourself.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert

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{ 19 comments… add one }
  • JJ Jalopy November 13, 2009, 5:02 PM

    Oh… I didn’t know about this scandal! I’ve not been paying attention to my celebrity gossip, clearly.

  • Keri Eagan November 13, 2009, 4:45 PM

    I hadn’t heard about the JLo sex tape scandel. I guess I don’t look at stuff like this because I wouldn’t participate in the humiliation of another human, famous or living just down the road from me.

    Great advice for protecting yourself and your children who for me would be more important during this age of cell phones with cameras which in a single beat could cause life long embarassment.

    Keri Eagan

  • Darryl Pace November 13, 2009, 7:53 PM

    Not sure where I heard about this, but I think that so far J. Lo has, through the courts, shut down her ex’s attempts to peddle the tape. I heard he wants to sell the video. He could probably make a bundle if the courts allow him to do so. Poor J. Lo. SMH.

    Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace

  • Philip Graves November 14, 2009, 10:58 AM

    Great advice April

    Although you forgot to mention that it’s so much fun for the rest of us who aren’t involved (only kidding!).

    It’s amazing how interested in gossip we are as a species – it’s amazing we get anything done!

    Consumer Behaviour Expert
    [The Consumer Behaviour Research Resource]

  • April Braswell November 14, 2009, 4:34 PM

    Hi Darryl,

    Thank you for stopping by and commenting at my blog. Indeed, that is what I saw as well with the headlines, that there is a court injunction in place at this time. However, some still got to view it. Which is one too many for most people about their private lives, hence my wanting to warn singles and married to be particularly careful.

    Happy Dating and Relationships,


  • Don Shepherd November 14, 2009, 8:38 PM

    Some memories were meant to reside in the minds of the individuals that created them.
    Don Shepherd

  • Lisa McLellan November 14, 2009, 10:14 PM

    Excellent advice – I can’t even imagine the embarrassment. Even on my best day, I don’t think I’d like the world seeing something like that on video or internet etc. This is an excellent warning, because it does seem to be something that men especially are interested in.

    Lisa McLellan
    Babysitting Services – Babysitter in your area

  • John Ho November 15, 2009, 5:04 AM


    To have that sort of details exposed in public eyes is no fun, unless the couples involved is in the porn industry and want to “leverge” on that to get more publicity and financial benefits.

    Yes, in this electonic age, whatever we say and do recorded in digital format will existing forever. It;s always prudent to be aware of this fact.

    John Ho

  • Steve Chambers November 15, 2009, 7:58 PM

    I think the lesson here is don’t make a sex tape.

    Steve Chambers

  • Martin November 22, 2009, 4:52 AM

    Not sure of the motivation for s_x tapes, unless for “business” purposes somewhere down the line.
    I prefer the real thing to watching it!

    Martin Wright

  • Sid Calderara September 3, 2010, 9:18 AM

    Jennfer Lopez is very beautiful so her kids should be and i know shes going to be a great mother

  • Dru March 25, 2011, 9:13 AM

    It was a real pleasure getting to your site recently, April. You sure it got here right here. With all the social networking popularity, your reminder to keep things safe online is very topical and a terrific help to me personally. I’m still young and all the college age guys have smart phones. Girls have got to be careful and think ahead about what might end up on the internet. Thank you for creating time to write down these things and for sharing your ideas to keep us safe now and in the future.

  • Kerrie May 10, 2011, 8:35 AM

    no longer marriage all about hopeless romantics. it’s true. you really have to be careful about what vids and pix are taken of you and where they’ll end up.

  • Brent May 14, 2011, 5:33 PM

    Important for every single and married man or woman to remember in the relationship era on the net.

  • dried flowers May 15, 2011, 4:03 PM

    You would think couples would be smarter than that now.

  • Bob Cammarota May 18, 2011, 11:41 PM

    I enjoy that you put excellent content out that is clear and good-written. This sounds so logical and sensible. Moderns clear have to be careful.

  • Karolyn May 22, 2011, 4:33 AM

    Oh wow yea April. You got to be careful with the net these days.

  • Covert Hypnotising Secrets Revealed June 3, 2011, 7:04 PM

    You’d think couples would be smarter these days.

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