Expert Dating Tips for the 20 Somethings – Christian Dating Example
Many of the 30, 40 and 50 somethings singles think they are the only ones who are challenged to meet other great singles. And yet, the 20 somethings have their own meeting and dating obstacles to deal with. Once you are no longer in 4-year college, all of sudden it is no longer interwoven into your daily life activity meeting and socializing with your contemporaries, many of whom are single.
Now that you are out of college, pursuing your career and life, hey wait a minute, what happened? Where are all the other great singles? Many young professionals are so busy with their jobs and spending 2-3 hours a day on the commute drive, that by the time they get home, if their roommate doesn’t have friends over visiting, they are simply too exhausted and challenged to meet other singles. What are some hot dating tips to meet more 20 something singles?
Seeing as we are still in the Season of Easter, I will give a few examples for the Christian Singles to make it concrete. However, any single can take the principle and apply the tips to their own unique situation and metropolitan area.
Christian Singles Groups and Christian Singles Ministry
A number of Christian Churches have some kind of singles group to minister to their single members. However, you are, of course, limited to the singles who are actually members of your church. Now, I have case study after case study of a husband and wife who met at church and married, and even those who are members of small churches. However in general, to have a large enough group to provide some potential dating prospects, you need to attend a medium – large church.
What are some alternatives…
Christian Dating Tip #1: 20 Something Ministry
A number of churches have a ministry particular oriented to meet the taste, style, and needs of the 20 somethings. These groups are often clustered under the age category rather than labeled as a Singles Ministry. However, many 20 somethings are single, so you get what you are looking for in both cases. Look to see if there are some services offered at non-traditional times where the music in contemporary or experimental. Sometimes those services are offered on Saturday evening in a “Lab” style. Other churches offer the alternative services on Sunday, Tuesday, or Wednesday night.
Christian Dating Tip #2: Visit and Participate in the Singles Groups of Another Church
You may feel a tad unfaithful to your own church doing this. However, a number of the very small close-knit denominations like the Mennonites actually make it a normal practice to send their singles to another church in a different region. Sort of like under the feudal system when pages apprenticed to different knights outside of their Lord’s realm, so singles would be sent out to a relative’s home for the summer to meet, mix, and mingle with other singles in that area. Go ahead and search for churches in your area which offer singles activities. Some churches offer 3 or 4 singles groups each clustered by an age range. Do some searches for churches within about 10 miles or so of where you live. Go to their websites and see what ministry groups they have and any calendar of events those groups have.
Christian Dating Tip #3: Locate Activity Based Groups
Here in Orange County there are Christian Jogging and Running groups. Not everyone who joins the group is a major jogger. They just are willing. And the group encourages a variety of running abilities. Everyone knows where they start and where they meet up for coffee when you finish.
Additionally, there are Christian singles Hiking groups. I have seen these both through googling on Christian Singles Groups and Christian Singles Ministries, and then clicking through the results to the descriptions. Christians singles groups are Christian singles not always looking to date, but certainly wanting to meet and mingle with fellow Christian singles for when they are ready to court, date, and marry. This is part of the metro-specific research I provide for my coaching clients. When you are sufficiently self-motivated and self-implementing, you can do that for your own area. Additionally, join Meetup dot Com and look for groups based on activities (hiking, jogging, surfing, skiing) and interests (Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist). You will be surprised the breadth of groups you will find.
One of the benefits of joining and participating in the Activity Based Groups is you are simply casually and comfortably socializing. There is no pressure to date the others in the group. And you might be feeling that you’d prefer to become acquainted with your potential dates a bit before you make a date. You get to see their lives, how they interact with others, their social skills, their communication skills, and personal their foibles (we all have them, right?).
Happy Dating and Relationships,