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Expert Dating Tips for Singles Too Young to Meet at Singles Bar

A question I repeatedly receive via email and on radio shows is from the single guys who are 18,19, and 20 years old who are too young to go to the cool local singles bar scene and yet they have already graduated from high school and aren’t hanging with the girls their own age.  These single Millenial generation guys are looking for tips for where to meet the hot chicks, aka pretty gurls.

When you are that age, bars are certainly not your best friend.  When you’re young, you generally haven’t learned how to handle your alcohol, and will often be diminished should you manage to pick someone up for a one night stand.  Or worse, like the movie, “Knocked Up,” you will manage to function just fine in bed and live to regret the results anyway

All the better to look for other locations for meeting and flirting with the opposite sex.

When you are eighteen or nineteen and you’re not headed off to a Four Year college or university program, that is totally cool.  You might be more of a kineasthetic learner who learns best by “show me and now let me do” as your learning modality.  That is perfectly fine.  Not everyone’s professional career path is nurtured and enhanced by spending 4 years at college.   Even while you are not attending Harvard University this quarter, you can still leverage the Law of Large numbers and take a weekend seminar, a one night adult learning workshop, or even 1 single 13 week class at your local community college and meet lots of young women around your age.  While you are on campus, bopping in from you day job, be sure to invest as much time as possible on campus at the local snack or dining area on campus where people congregate.  You want to be sure to leverage the social hanging out time which is already made available to you there on campus.

Check over the next few days as I provide more tips for the 18-20 year olds for meeting each other outside of a singles bar.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Las Vegas Baby Boomer Dating Expert

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  • Jose Escalante October 24, 2009, 11:34 PM

    Great tips April for the younger set.

    Jose Escalante

  • Keri Eagan October 24, 2009, 11:37 PM

    Good for young people to explore options other than meeting in bars. In my country we have a serious binge drinking culture that I find disturbing. Many young people here have no clue what to do if they aren’t boozed up. Particularly dangerous for girls.

    My children aren’t quite old enough to date, but you can be sure I’ll be noting your suggestions to encourage them towards a healthy attitude towards meeting people.

    Keri Eagan

  • Rob Northrup October 25, 2009, 12:04 AM

    Anyplace where people of common interests meet is an excellent starting point– whatever the hobby or interest…

    from a shooting range,
    to a church group,
    to a bowling league…

    Seize the Day,

  • Katie October 25, 2009, 12:23 AM

    Good tip for daters of all ages. In an academic setting the barriers are a little more broken down. It’s easier for either side to approach than at other places. More opportunities to have a quick quiet conversation.

    I find airports and flights to be hot spots for me. The last flight I was on I had 3 men ask me out . . . and 2 were not even on my flight! The first time this happened I was 19, traveling to the homeland (Boston) and struck up conversation with with a gentleman at a soon to be rival school. We’ve been fast friends ever since.


  • John Ho October 25, 2009, 6:53 AM


    Good to see you cater for all age groups in your advice and guidiance!

    I suppose due to their relative inexpereince with life in genreal, this 18-20 years old need more hand holding to do the signel dating right.

    John Ho

  • Steve Chambers October 25, 2009, 9:36 AM

    Young people shouldn’t be concerning themselves so much with dating and relationships. They should focus on preparing themselves for a career and the life ahead of them. There is plenty enough time to find a mate or stable relationship after age 25.

    Of course few people adhere to this advice, which is why so many people have messed up relationships and lives.

    Steve Chambers, Body Language Speaker

  • Lynn Lane October 25, 2009, 10:49 AM


    Ahh…Yes. I remember 18 -20 years old. You give some great advice for these ages. When you can find people with common themes that is also a great place.
    Gym – Yoga Class – Spin – Karate – Kick Boxing –
    Lynn Lane–>The Warrior Of Success

  • Vick October 25, 2009, 3:43 PM

    Great ideas for the younger crowd. Sometimes the bar scene is over rated. There will be plenty of time to hit the bars later in life. If kids are smart it would be best to follow the laws about alcohol until they are 21. There are plenty of activities that don’t have to have alcohol involved.

    Vicki http://www.bridal-threads.com

  • Robert Martin October 25, 2009, 6:38 PM

    Where were you when I needed you. I need to get my daughter on your blog she will love it.

    Robert Martin

  • Jennifer Battaglino October 25, 2009, 7:39 PM

    Good advice for what I would think is a hard age group to work with if they are not in college. This is probably the biggest pool of singles you will ever see and given all that time in one place to explore.
    College isn’t for everyone so good thing this age group has you to guide them!

    Jennifer Battaglino
    The Harwood Group – Tinnitus, Chronic Illness, Fears, and Anxiety

  • Kate McKeon October 25, 2009, 10:43 PM

    If you are not affiliated with a school, go get affiliated with a school – even if just a fan.

    I think of Good Will HUnting when reading this post. Go be around your age group – the folks you want to be around. Sure you can hang at construction jobs (I had one!), but your best mating bets are probably in class.

    Go flirt!

  • Lisa McLellan October 26, 2009, 12:56 PM

    Great tip for those 18, 19, and 20 year olds who aren’t in college. I never would have thought of that! I’m with Kate. I thought of Good Will Hunting as well when I read this post.

    Lisa McLellan
    Babysitting Services – Babysitter in your area

  • Martin October 27, 2009, 10:53 AM

    In the UK, there is a bar/pub “culture” available from age 18.
    Is there much binge drinking? Yes.
    Is there much dating? Yes.
    There is also much internal strife…Out with my mates or Out with my date?!

    Work, Gyms and Further education courses are also popular dating zones.

  • Darryl Pace October 27, 2009, 2:42 PM

    My brother and I sometimes joke about young people in college being unaware of the gold mine they’re in, dating-wise. Never again in life will the young person be in continual close proximity to so many people their age as they are at college.

    For those not attending college, they need the tips in this post!

    Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace

  • Hezron October 29, 2009, 7:17 PM

    This is directed at Steve Chambers

    You are right about young people focusing on school and getting a career BUT,
    here in Canada, stats show that the age to find a partner is in College. More people, similar interests. As a college grad, I don’t think I am a dating/relationship turd but it is so hard to meet people once I am in the “real world”. To find suitable partners gets more difficult to meet people. Work hours, selectivity do come into play. After 25, the eligible dating pool shrinks. I am 36 now and I feel the dating pool is downright horrible for me (unless I really enjoy dating, what I call “loser women”, “jaded women” and women who are interested in my $$$$$.

  • Hezron October 29, 2009, 7:25 PM


    I understand the fact that some young people may not be ready for college. Basing on my experience, young men 18-24 who are not in school, better have a decent paying job (with a high school education, more likely to be working a minimum wage job). If I were to be a woman in college, studying hard, why would I want to date a guy who appear on the surface level, little ambition?

  • Sharon Baker November 5, 2009, 5:56 PM

    When it comes to meeting and dating women, I got turned onto foreign women when I started traveling. There should be a saying once you go with foreign women, you never go back.

  • Sharon Baker November 12, 2009, 11:23 AM

    When it comes to meeting and dating women, I got turned onto foreign women when I started traveling. There should be a saying once you go with foreign women, you never go back.

  • Wanda Arca March 20, 2011, 12:57 PM

    I’d like to have a boyfriend but I don’t want to make a fake id just to go to a singles bar.

  • Tom B April 3, 2011, 1:17 PM

    Your ideas are fresh April. I find it difficult to know where or how to meet the hot girls around here now that I’m not in high school anymore. Seems most of them want a college guy.

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