As a leading dating expert with perhaps the most unusual background (having been widowed), I get a lot of messages from single guys wanting dating advice on how to date women, how to ask girls out, and how to make a great first date. Single guys want to know what to say and do to make the first date such a success that yes, their date wants to see them again.
What are some great first date tips for guys?
First Date Success Tip for Guys – Have a Plan
First, guys, have a plan. Making a first date great really starts before the day of the actual date. Making a first date with you a wonderful experience begins even before you ask the girl out on date. When you ask her out, you didn’t just say, “Hey wanna get together some time?” Instead, for successful dating, single girls and women really love it when the guy asks them out for date with a plan.
So, instead of a nebulous undefined asking her out, what positions you head and shoulders above the other singles guys is you ask her out for a specific date. “I want to take you on date. How is Saturday night at 7 o’clock? We can grab a bit to eat before heading over to the salsa club for the class and dancing.”
See what I mean? Now she has something to respond to. The salsa dancing could be any activity which you two were chatting about or interest she expressed while you talking.
First Date Success Tip for Guys – Share an Activity
First dates and early dates in a romantic relationship, it is great if you can suggest and plan for a shared activity. Having shared activity to pursue together gives you both safe topics for conversation. You don’t need to share about your prior dating relationships. Nor do you need to go into explanations and details about your divorce as well as more bonding occurs when you do an activity together. You also are being gracious and giving her something she can casually talk with you about – the shared activity. This way she doesn’t start to treat you like all of her girlfriends and do too much girl talk before you two know each other better.
First Date Success Tip for Guys – Keep It Brief
First dates are just about becoming a little bit better acquainted. It is only in the Hollywood movies that they are half day gab fests. Even if the rapport you two create is amazing, refrain from trying to elongate the first date to go past a few hours. The gauge you want to use is to have the first date be 2-3 hours. Yes, if you’re at a dance club it is ok that it becomes closer to 4 hours. Afterall, you two are not chatting the entire 4 hours. You are dancing with others periodically. However, you want to leave enough mystery and interest to have a reason for a second date. Keeping the first date short and fun helps you to win the right to ask her on a second date!
Special First Date Tip Note: If this is a first meeting date from having met at an online dating site, then my recommendation is for a shorter date.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
Dating and Relationship Expert