Easy Dating Tips for Getting MORE Dates

Easy Dating Tips for Getting MORE Dates

Yup.  It’s Sunday.  First of all, in my life, this is the most important day of the year.  Yes, it’s my birthday.  Why does that make it the most important day of the year for me?  Cause I am REALLY REALLY glad to have BEEN born and to BE ALIVE!

You will definitely notice laced throughout my blog and My Website, April Braswell, Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach that THEME of LIVE! LIVE! LIVE!  I already had that tendency before I met my late husband.  And indeed, he was drawn to my unique combination of beauty and vivacity.  (I know, it’s true, I AM having too much fun.  Wanna join me?  It’s contagious. You’ll have fun 2!)  Something I really got to LIVE OUT with walking along side him with his battle with cancer was to treat him LIKE A MAN throughout, not an invalid or a patient, never doing FOR him what he could do himself, helping HIM to do it, but he did it.  And to LIVE UNTIL WE DIE.  too many people are so caught up in the fears for our security in usually our jobs and sometimes our relationships (like marriage becomes a prison or the fear of it keeps us single, like, forever) that we never take the risks to LIVE.  Take some risks in communication.

Soooo, what about TODAY, you’re wondering.  You’re probably already thinking to yourself,  “She’s ALREADY advised that I try out a different CHURCH.  April has GOT to suggest something NEW and DIFFERENT!”

Yup.  And I’m gonna.  But remember, you have a list now of like, 23 churches you can go try out.  Don’t go into cognitive dissonance and overwhelm, just make a list, put a Sunday date next to it, but those in your calendar and ROTATE!

And for today?  Where am I going to send you?

To the Laundromat!

Yup, I GOTTA do laundry.  I have reached what I refer to as The Laundry Imperative.

I actually have SOME clothes left which I can wear.  And while I LOVE Jennifer Skinner’s Blog on The VERY Small Closet I’m just not THERE yet (it’s a process, I know she’d support me in this and the de-layering of casting off clothes.  And yes, I have 2 more outfits that are GOING!).  In fact, it’s part of the side effect of NOT having a Washer Dryer that I have collected more clothes so I can go longer between laundromat runs.  Like back in college when you’d buy MORE underwear so you could go longer without having to hang in the laundry room?  Similar.

Soooo, on one hand, oye, yes, Laundromats are BUSY on the weekends!

But if you are single, that is the whole point!

GO WHEN IT IS BUSY!

You WILL meet people.

OK, some of the single men have been asking me to give more scripts for MEN to use here.

Men, you can ALWAYS safely ask a woman about laundry.  “Tide?  Do you find that’s really better than the generic?  What do you like about it?” (Notice the second sentence was an open ended sentence.  The point here is for her to speak a sentence to you, not just utter, as “Yes” or a “No.”)  “Really.  That’s great.  Do you like any of the dryer sheets?  Which ones?” Once your laundry is in the washer or in the dryer, “hey, I was going to go around the corner and grab a coffee at Starbucks.  Can I bring you back a latte?  Would you like to join me?”

That is not even a coffee date.  That is like in college when you’d grab a bite to eat.  This is just friendly banter and a coffee.  You’re just NATURALLY and CASUALLY meeting and connecting with women.  It’s like a mutual compliment.  You don’t even have to be HUGELY enamored of her.  The point is PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE.

Now of course, if you DID find her fabulous and attractive (oh no, you’re beautiful and brainy! toe curling combination, I get this all the time.  They can’t stand it.), be a MAN, and say, “Leslie, I’d like to take you out on a REAL date. [omg, yes, you used THAT WORD - Date!  ahhhh. But we're adults here and you're good with that.]  What’s your phone number so I can call you?” And if you’re really really good and want to distinguish yourself MASSIVELY as a man, you’ll say, “I want to take you out on a real date.  How is Friday night for you?  7 o’clock?” Just be ready to catch her cause she’s going to fall out of her chair and her mouth will be slightly agape.  As she closes her mouth, the words that will come out of her mouth will be…. “Yes.” Or “Yes, that sounds like fun!”

Now go back and fold your laundry.  After she says yes, go ahead and shoot me an email and let me know how it goes!  apriljbraswell@aol.com

Mazel tov!

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell