Dispelling 5 Myths About Cougar Dating for Single Boomer Women
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As Cougar Dating becomes more mainstream with glamorous real-life examples from Hollywood of forties, fifties, and sixties alluring women Demi Moore, Susan Sarandon, and Goldie Hawn, here are some of the Dating Myths about Younger Men dating Older Women which still linger in our popular culture.
Cougar Dating Myth #1. They only want one thing
The sexual chemistry which can exist between younger men and their older women counterparts cannot be denied. However, the truth is, many younger men who pursue older women are not just looking for a one night stand or weekend fling. Truth bears out that they are seeking relationships of a more lasting nature.
Cougar Dating Myth #2. Those relationships are so short lived
The relationships are not just weekend or one month flinglettes. Many of the Older Women Younger Men relationships pursuing Cougar Dating are quite long lived, whether they are life partners or become married couples. 2 example couples, one Bay Area, one Los Angeles, have been married 10 years and life partnered for 6 years respectively.
Cougar Dating Myth #3. Those Cougar Women Are So Aggressive
Often it is the younger man who has her in his sights, wants her for a relationship and actively pursues her. Frequently the younger man must make an additional pitch to help the single boomer woman to over come her own prejudices, judgments, and beliefs sufficient to consider his romantic suit of her. Often the Boomer Women won’t date him until he first demonstrates the earnestness of his romantic interest in her. One Los Angeles area Cougar Love couple, they met while the two were on a work project together. He pursued her having to make his case for over 1 year before she would consider dating him. Indeed, this Christmas they’ll be celebrating 7 years together.
Cougar Dating Myth #4. Tacky and Sordid
Initially the label “Cougar” was affixed to tackily dressed women who prowled singles bars in some sordid manner. But was that label ever even really expressive of actual life? Many of the Cougar Women are quite smart, classy, and attractive women of varying social classes.
Cougar Dating Myth #5. The Men Must Be Unattractive and Hard Up
The counterpart myth to the Cougar Dating Myth that the women must be overly aggressive or tacky in some manner is the belief then that the young man must be hard up somehow. Surely he is not attractive. Not only is that highly prejudicial and biases that men would only be attracted to women their own age or younger. But it is simply not true. In both the case of the Northern Californian and Southern Californian couples cited, the young man was very attractive for what women find attractive. While neither has the hyperpolished fashion image of GQ, both possessed more rugged masculine good looks combined with sterling relationship qualities and fabulous physiques. The consistency of their character and pursuit and stability. These are a combination which made these men fabulously attractive to women with mature taste wanting more than just a pretty face in man.
Having dispelled all these myths about Cougar Dating, when you venture out and onto the net for online dating, keep an open mind about the age range for your search. You just might find love online where you least expected it, in the arms of a younger man!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
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April Braswell is an expert columnist at DatingAdvice.com and speaks to singles in Singles Groups and Church Singles Ministries as well as Divorce Support Groups. Looking to Book April to speak at your Singles Event?