Dating Tip – Should You Lie About Your Age in Your Online Dating Profile?

by April Braswell on May 10, 2010

Internet Dating Tip – Should You Lie About Your Age in Your Online Dating Profile?

Internet Dating Expert AdviceTip – OK for You to Lie About Your Age in Your Online Dating Profile?

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Los Angeles Area Singles Seem to Be Habitually Lying About Their Age in Their Dating Profile, Is This OK to Do, too?

 

Online Dating Profile Advice – How to Manage Your Age in Your Profile When You Look Great for Your Age:

Singles email me and ask me also in person at my Singles Dating Classes in Los Angeles, “Is it ok to lie about your age in your internet dating profile?”   Quite often, the singles who ask this are typically over 40 and 50 years old, are in great shape, and look young for their age.  Their challenge is they don’t want potential dating partners who are searching by the age range search criteria to pass them by.  If people were to meet them in face-to-face life, they would take them for younger then they are and date well.  They are looking for the same thing at the online dating sites.

 

Computer Dating Profile Advice – It’s Not Fair To Have To Cite Your Age Online When You Look Great In Person

The problem with this question is that you are lying online.  Now, yes, it’s not fair.  Yes, I agree.  It’s not fair.  You look simply fabulous for your age.  You look years younger than your peers. It’s not fair that if your prospective dates meet you first in person they would think you are probably mid-30s.  You simply are benefiting from your youthful good looks.  In person, by looking young and vital, you are leveraging your attractiveness and charisma.  You’re not lying by looking good in person.

 

Online Dating Profile Advice – The Problem When You Lie About Your Age in Your Internet Dating Profile

However, it’s a problem to online.  Why?  Because to lie about your age in your internet dating profile is a whole other thing.  You are overtly lying.  With my professional sales and marketing background, I am all about positioning the truth as favorably as possible.  Being single women, we understand using all the tools of beauty, fitness, health, hair, and make-up to look our best.  However, that is looking our best.  We are not lying when we wear lipstick.  We are not lying when we color enhance our hair with a color treatment.  We are not lying when we were marvelous lingerie that displays our feminine figures to their best advantage.

What is your goal in going online?  Why are you posting at the internet personals ads?  When you answer that question with, “April, I want to get married.  I want a loving life partner relationship with someone I can really share my life with.” Then when you lie about your age in your online dating profile, should your relationship go past the first few dates and actually develop into that life partner relationship you want, at some point you will have to TELL THEM, “I lied to you.”

Who likes to hear, “I lied to you”?

Raise your hand.

Yeah, not many takers.

There are little white lies.  There are lies of omission.  There are lies of where we really thought one thing and another person has a different perspective.

Lying about your age in your online dating profile, however, is overt lying.  Overt lying means that you specifically, consciously, and intentionally lied to another person.

When you specifically and intentionally lie to another person at the start, that is the foundation for your romantic relationship.  When your relationship progresses and you start to share more of yourself and your life with them, you will at some point need to tell them the truth.  When you do tell them the truth, the problem is, in the back of their mind, they will start to wonder, “What else are they lying to me about?” Even if you and they even think that age is such a small factor, and it is really not an important detail.  And it is not that important a detail.  However, your character attribute of “Being Truthful” just became, “Overtly Lies.” Your relationship will suffer.  You will have sabotaged the development of your mutual trust.  Your partner will be wondering and wondering.  The question, “Where else are they lying to me?” will simply always be niggling in the back of their brain and bother them.

When it comes to online dating it is simply better to practice the character attribute of “Being Truthful.” Then all the dates you meet from internet dating have a good foundation and you can see if they develop into a lasting love relationship.  To do otherwise sabotages them from the get go.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

 

April Braswell

Dating and Relationship Expert

As seen in Dating for Dummies, 3rd Edition

Ms. Braswell leads Internet Singles Dating Classes for singles of all ages in the Los Angeles area.

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