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Dating Expert Answers – Dating Advise for Single Women, How to Talk to Guys in a Coffee Shop

Dating Expert Answers – Dating Advise for Single Women, How to Talk to Guys in a Coffee Shop

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Woman flirting with a guy over coffee

One of the questions I receive often is from single guys and single girls asking for tips and suggestions for how to talk to other cute singles whom they meet by happenstance as they go through their daily lives.  “April, I’m at a coffee shop and I see a cute guy studying at another table, how do I talk to him?”

Tactics for guys are a bit different than it is for women.  Single women can leverage more visuals an catch a guy’s attention visually more than single men can with women.  While women do want a man to groom well and look good, scientific studies demonstrate that men are much more highly visually stimulated.  So women in a manner, have quite an easy time of getting a man’s attention.

The other thing is, the more that you incorporate this behavior into your daily practice, the better.  That way, if you just practice getting and being comfortable naturally flirting then when it is really important and you someone whom you’d really like to impress, you are already very smooth, polished, and poised with your flirting.

Ok, just remember this is all practice.

Flirting is just a fun mutual compliment that may lead to a date or it leads nowhere. But it what it does do is it leaves everyone feeling a wee bit sexier and confident about themselves and about their ability to interact well with the opposite sex.

Flirting Tip for Women #1:  Dress to Flirt and Get Attention

OK.   As I mentioned, men are highly visually stimulated.  So while you don’t have to always dress your super model best every day.  However whenever you go out into public to hang out for awhile, to do any shopping or eating, start to express your wonderful self-confidence and your marvelous self-esteem by dressing in a cute and attractive manner.  Do get in the daily habit of wearing at least a little make up.

You might be thinking, “Why do I have to do that?  I’m just dashing into the store for a few minutes.” Well, it really is true. When you least expect it like just when you are dashing into the dry cleaners you can actually meet the great love of your life whom you’ll marry.  You want that you look your best when you first meet.

So what are some things you can do when you are in-person like that at a coffee shop?

Flirting Tip for Women #2:  Get Up and Move Around

Make a point of getting up and passing him repeatedly.  You can use any excuse available to you.  Get up and walk across the room in front of his field of vision –  to get a napkin, get a cup of water, get a stirrer for your coffee, to ask the coffee team a question. ANYTHING.  Back and forth, back and forth until you are sure he has at least noticed you by looking up at you a few times.

Flirting Tip for Women #3:  Start Conversation

To start a convo: drop your napkin. Ask him to pass you something. Ask to borrow a pen from him. ANYTHING to start a sentence exchange with him. Second sentence make some kind of open ended question about whatever book he has with him for his studies. Or his computer bag. Whatever he has with him, ask him about it.

This gives you 3 -5 sentences which you can exchange with him. When he responds warmly, you can then interject a safe comment about the  coffee shop.

See? You can start some conversations and simply start flirting. If things go well, invite yourself to sit with him and study for a few minutes. If he just seems polite, thank him for the pen, and go back to your table. No harm no foul. Remember, you’re just practicing, right? Smile and enjoy your coffee to yourself.

You can even practice doing this daily with any guy you see at the coffee shop so you feel confident doing this. That way when Mr. Cutie does  show up, you are then completely comfortable and confident interacting with him.

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell
Dating and Relationship Expert

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About the author: April Braswell is an internationally recognized Dating and Relationship Expert. She coaches single men and women to attract and find the best life partner for them. April brings cutting edge behavioral research to singles to empower them for finding quality mates. Connect with April at Google+: plus.google.com/+AprilBraswell/

37 comments… add one

  • Hi April, great dating tips for how to talk and get to a date

  • Anthony

    Great advice. I like a direct woman who is comfortable in her skin. Someone I can connect with and who is not talking one way but giving me a whole other vibe via body language and tone of voice. Someone who is well put together but not too made up or wearing too much perfume or makeup. I like a confident woman who has a solid sense of self and who can shine despite her attire. I tend to get along best with them because we can be ourselves and connect much quicker. I’m in South FL and there are way too many phony plastic women down here who are really well dressed and really pretty but totally unattractive at the same time. It is because they are fake. Be yourself ladies and you will attract a guy who is better suited to you and save a bunch of time.

  • So, that’s why that woman kept walking past me! Actually that’s good advice.
    Sometimes us guys are like dogs & need bright shiny objects moving past us a few times before we awaken from our daydreaming and notice.

    The Success Secrets

  • This dating tip for girls like me really helps April. thank you. I get so tongue in front of hunks. – CharLady

  • When I try to talk to a hot guy I just choke up. this helped for my social dating life. thanx April! you are a great dating expert! – Vlady

  • Does it matter how I dress for getting noticed by cute guyz at a coffee shop like Starbucks? Or can I just wear what I feel like? I don’t like shopping much and don’t really wear make up. Does it matter?

  • I enjoyed reading your dating tips blog. Keep it that way. Appreciate your single help. – EMan

  • kenneth

    So, April, star bucks and other coffee shops are good for meeting singles as well as for where to go for a first date? _ KennethB

  • Hello!I am following your dating blog for some days now. I have to say that your dating tips for single are very interesting. I had to add it to my favorites list and I will make sure that I will follow it frequently. Thanks for the dating tips. Getting the right girl for me matters. Thanks

  • Eva Palmer

    Hi April!
    Jusdt cheking older posts that you have!
    You really know all the tricks!
    I like the advicce of back and forward, back and forward at the coffee shop!

  • April, your dating articles and singles tips are so helpful. Thank you I appreciate the info to me get a cute guys attention!

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  • Thank April. I like these examples for how to talk to cute guys and get their attention in public.

  • Carlton

    Thanks April for this great relationship tip for singles. I am sure I’ll drop by your dating blog again and will recommend to my friends.

  • Hi! Wanted to let you know that this Dating Expert tip for women really hit home. Thanks for it. Will follow this when getting my coffee now.

  • Hands down, April your dating tips win by a mile. It’s a huge help to single men and women to find love.

  • Tania Randy

    oh April, these are really great dating tips. I like this idea about catch a guy’s attention at the gourmet coffee shops.

  • Bettina

    April this dating tip is great because I’m always seeing cute guys at Starbucks and don’t know what to do to get things started with them.

  • Between me and my husband we’ve chatted and met people easily by striking up a conversation at coffee shops. Good idea april

  • Carrie

    Oh April , it’s true there are so many people at coffee shops. Thanks for making it easy to talk!

  • Cammara

    I’ve meant to write about something like this on my blog and this gave me an idea. Thanks April

  • Freddie

    Hi April your dating tips for singles in every circumstance are great!

  • Larissa Leishman

    Wow April I never thought of my accessories as a way to help all those cute hot hunkie guyz talk to me at star bucks! thanks!

  • Hi April Love your disposition and how helpful the variety of your dating tips.

  • Web

    TY for the helpful post! Your dating tips are excellent. I would never have discovered this otherwise!

  • I am very impressed with the dating tips and articles on your site April. I’ve gotten so many ideas to help me. I will be coming back to check if you have more articles in the future.

  • This is the kind of thing I try to share with my girlfriends. April, can I expect a sequel?

  • Sammy

    I was searching on google and I stumbled on your site. Good article you have here about singles breaking the ice at Starbucks. More guys at Starbucks than the tea places. I have shared it to my friend who was looking for such info. I am pretty sure this will help him a lot.

  • Hi April great tips for breaking the ice at a kewl coffee shop. There are so many hot girls there. this helps.

  • Elly

    Me too, April. ty for posting these tips. I see cute guyz and just don’t know what to say to them. I don’t want to be desparate or anything.

  • Gottfried

    You have written very good dating articles on your site. Loads of information I generated from it. Great work April.

  • talking and flirting at place like starbucks is so good for easily meeting new people each day. i like it april

  • Quite a beautiful website April. Your dating tips are fun. I can hardly wait to go try these out.

    Thank you

  • Hi April, I agree with you. For singles or anyone chatting and meeting in cofee shops is really a fun way to meet!

  • Jessica

    Hey April, I just found this article through Google. I like the example you use in your article to help girls talke to cute guys. I’m going to subscribe to your feeds hoping to see more.

  • Tammy Byred

    Hello there April. I appreciate your singles dating advice site and all the great dating tips you keep giving us. I check it regularly to see the latest info. Thank you

  • Caleb

    Do I need to drink coffee there? No passion at all.

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