I only just now saw your reply.

In general, for online dating, the man needs to segue to asking you out on a Date 0 first date within 5 emails. 3-4 is better.

If he is spending all this time “getting to know you” online, he has not actually yet made any effort to demonstrate his masculine protection and provision by taking you on a date.

Avoid the pre-date no-date of answering all their questions about you online that are really better done IN PERSON on a date.

On a foundational level, I recommend all my clients start with

Moving On: Dump Your Relationship Baggage and Make Room for the Love of Your Life

If you are in the SouthWest region of the US, I put on seminars where we do that, and then are better equipped for attracting love and new love into our lives.

Sort of a letting go and then moving on work.

THank you for reading my blog!

Best regards,

April Braswell

Thanks so much – your advice is much appreciated. I guess it was something that I knew but it always helps when someone else validates it especially an internet dating expert such as yourself!
I am in my thirties – few years till I get to the forties……..

No we have not met in person, just on the site initially and then through email and text messaging….I originally thought maybe he was just wanting to get to know me better and slow is fine but now I find it strange especially when I find out he is actually going out on dates with other women…..so in essence he is going out with them and yet still texting me daily….its odd and I am totally confused.

thank you so much for reading my dating and relationship blog. I do appreciate it. Also, I am so glad you commented. I always enjoy becoming acquainted with who is reading my articles and blog so I can better serve them. May I ask a slightly indelicate question? What is your age, please? As ladies, I know we often do not want to directly reveal our precise YEAR. If you feel more comfortable with it, perhaps indicated, 20 something 30 something, 40 something, Baby Boomer (45-60). Whatever you are comfortable with.

I cover some of the emailing guidelines in my forthcoming book. Until it is out, I will just give you a foretaste. This man, have you already met in person and that is how he has your phone number and email? Or has it only been as of yet “meeting” at an internet dating site and no face-to-face meeting?

Please reply here, and I’ll give you a more guided answer.

For now, stop communicating with him. He clearly is not actually asking you out on a date and is for whatever reason (it really doesn’t matter) a Time Waster. Focus your attention and time on others who actually man up and ask you out.

Best regards,

April

This is a great post. If a person is single and they are in there 30′s but are a very introverted person what would your recommendations be to build up there social circle for dating?

Mitch