Tonight I will be brief, and want to talk with you a little about your internet dating profile for your Boomer Dating.
Two days ago I touched on THE GOAL for Millenial Daters and GenX Daters is often a bit different than it is for single Boomers who are dating. That the KIND of romantic relationship desired is often a bit different.
Whatever kind of romantic relationship you DO want, you want to be sure to weave some of that into your online dating profile.
DEMONSTRATE DOMESTICITY:
While you may not be aiming for having any more children, because you are desiring to attract and create a romantic life partner relationship where you share your lives together, you want to convey some Home and Hearth feelings. You will want to demonstrate some domesticity in your profile.
Now, the men can safely directly in their online dating profile such direct statements like, “I want a relationship.” etc. Some of the GenX single men can even say, “I’m ready to settle down and have a family.” Women, we cannot. It sounds too loaded and desperate. Even the men, I would suggest some slightly more subtle phrasing for them, depending on their whole profile.
From your three column list, what can you include?
Women:
One of my busy successful executive business women coaching clients is an amazing cook. (Yeah, don’t you wish you were on HER Christmas Cookie baking list!) She includes a reference to being a really good cook (a little humility is a good thing, plus the gentleman must win the priviledge of her inviting him over for dinner, not suggest it asap if we positioned it immediately in sentence one of the 1st paragraph of her profiles.)
That particular attribute also nicely yin softens and balances out her super yang successful business woman energy.
Men:
The men will sometimes mention such things as, “Successful in business, have learned to take out the trash and do my own laundry….” thus side stepping an image of being a playboy or bachelor pad which is a mess. That man is an adult and also subtly conveyed domesticity and masculine provision (taking out the trash is like one of the last ways a 21st century man can demonstrate his “bring home the kill” testosterone behavior where we ladies then thank, admire, and extol the virtues of it.)
What about you? What could you include?
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April
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April,
> What could you include?
May I put in my face with a lovely smile as a bait
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Don;t they say that the eyes is the window to the soul?
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This reminds me of the hilarious exchange between Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell in Groundhog Day…
Bill: What are you looking for? Who is your perfect guy?
Andie: First of all, he’s too humble to know he’s perfect.
Murray: That’s me.
Andie: He’s intelligent,supportive, funny.
Murray: Me, me, me.
Andie: He’s romantic and courageous.
- Me also.
Andie: He’s got a good body, but doesn’t look in the mirror every two minutes.
Murray: I have a great body, and sometimes I go months without looking.
Andie: He’s kind, sensitive and gentle. He’s not afraid to cry in front of me.
Murray: This is a man, right?
Andie: He likes animals and children, and he’ll change poopy diapers.
Murray: Does he have to use the word “poopy”?
Andie: And he plays an instrument, and he loves his mother.
Murray: I am really close on this one.
Seize the Day,
Rob
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April, I am commenting on all your posts and they are not showing up…can’t figure it out…off to the lawyers…will look into it later…
SunnyMarie
Hi Sonya,
Thank you for commenting. From what I can see they are displaying. Hope things go well at the lawyers.
Best regards,
April
Hi Rob,
Thanks for chiming in. Yes, that IS hilarious and yeeesssssss there is a reason she is still single. Wanting some ideal perfection is not wanting an actual relationship with a live human being where things will at sometimes get… poopy.
Best regard,
April
Hi John,
tee hee. Well, yes, of course, you’ll be including a photograph of your face. Was your smile or eyes on your list of physical attributes which you thought were particularly outstanding about yourself?
Best regards,
April
April, you have some great advice here for the boomer who is out there dating. I especially like the “Home and Hearth” advice because it is very important, especially as we grow older. For myself, and I fit this demographic, as well as most of the men I talk to, it is important that the woman contribute somehow to the relationship outside of simply looking good (which we expect) and providing sex.
Most men want a woman who will keep house and cook, at least to some extent. Feminism aside, most successful men prefer a woman who can manage a home and support them, even if they have a career outside the home.
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More interesting information from the dating expert!
Pam
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April
Recently one of my clients spent the day with me videotaping and shooting pictures as i worked. (yes, she is single) For lunch we stopped in at my house. My client commented i had the cleanest bachelor bathroom she had ever been in…..
My cleaning lady had just left before we got there.
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Hi April,
Great insight into what you should do when positioning yourself to the opposite sex
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Got me giggling on that one. Take out the trash “is like one of the last ways a 21st century man can demonstrate his “bring home the kill” testosterone behavior” I think we have some in this group who might be amenable to taking out the trash AND are good at bringing home the kill. Venison anyone?
Pat
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April,
Good stuff. I referred one of my friends to your site and blog.
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Great post!!
Interesting comments from Steve too about feminism…
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