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Boomer Dating Advise and Tips for Singles Over 45, Over 50 +

Boomer Dating Advise and Tips for Singles Over 45, Over 50 +

Last night the whole family celebration of this generation’s equivalent of The Birthdays, we were a whole gaggle of Baby Boomers.  In the older generations which have all passed on, my mother and maternal grandmother’s birthdays were 2 days apart.  We always referred to that as THE BIRTHDAYS.  What do you want to do for THE BIRTHDAYS this year?  etc.

1 Couple

1 Widow

1 Widower

1 Single Never Married Woman

1 Single Never Married Man

1 Divorced Woman

Some of the strongest characteristics of couples who connect for romantic life partnership and marriage over the age of 45 and over 50 is that those single boomers really it IS all about WHO YA KNOW.

And it is also about WHO KNOWS YOU!

For Singles in their 30s, in the metropolitan areas it was often recycled exs potlucks.  There were some of those featured in the STILL popular TV show, Sex And The City (SITC).  Ha ha.  But those sort of larger parties always feel so contrived and like too small a speed dating event.  Too much pressure to HAVE to pair up and also the contextual frame is too negative.


Instead of not the right match for you or for me.

I prefer and recommend small potlucks dinners.  And that you have to bring a few new people each time.  Better still is to rotate the hosting of these.  If you and some of your single friends live near each other the progressive dinners are always a fun combination of eating, socializing and some exercise.  Walking a little bit after a meal makes for better digestion anyways.

One of the ruts into which we can fall is the list of friends with whom we regularly socialize.  We almost need to attend 2 or 3 potluck dinners a month, with slightly different host/hostesses of each.  Then we are ensuring that we really are meeting new people and not just meeting the same singles we always meet.

Ladies, remember to consider younger men for dating.  The social taboo on that has lifted.  And often the are more pursuing of you than your age-group peers.  Just, keep and open mind for who is pursuing you!

In the meantime,

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell
Dating Quick Start Expert, Relationship Success Coach

{ 21 comments… add one }
  • Steve Chambers May 3, 2009, 12:48 PM

    Kind of like forming a leads club for dating. Let’s meet on a certain day and we all need to bring someone new or to put $1 in the kitty. Everyone bring a dish (no pun intended.)

    Steve, The Sales Coach

  • Don Shepherd May 3, 2009, 2:51 PM

    How do i follow Steve with a comment like that? with all these potlucks a guy could eat good if nothing else.

    Don Shepherd

  • Rob Northrup May 3, 2009, 4:10 PM

    Good tips for socializing. And as a former Minnesotan, please don’t bring anything with French Green beans and those fried onion things on top to the potluck… and anything with Cream of Mushroom soup is flat out.

    Seize the Day,


  • Bob Kaufer May 3, 2009, 4:25 PM

    Great slant to the topic. Again, I am glad that I am not a single person at this time of my life.

    Bob Kaufer

  • jc mackenzie May 3, 2009, 5:09 PM


    It seems to me , and I may have mentioned this before, that much of your advice and many of your posts are designed to ease the presuure of meeting people, to sort of de-sensitize the situation. I think that is so cool. Much of the conversation I hear concerns the “pressure” of the first date, the get together etc.

    Next time I hear that I’m going to send them to your site.



  • Christian Haller May 3, 2009, 5:25 PM

    Rob – Sounds like a challenge to post something good about Cream of Mushroom. You may be surprised.
    Christian Haller

  • Sonya Lenzo May 3, 2009, 5:45 PM

    My circle of girlfriends (8-10 of us over 60 now), go out for dinner together on our birthday. Then we invite all the single men we know to join us at a local club w/a live band and we have birthday cake there. the men bring gag cards.When the men have a birthday, we bring the cake and cards and put the word out…so everyone in our group gets abit of a party and no one is alone on their birthday…

  • Duane Cunningham May 3, 2009, 9:52 PM

    Hi April,

    Great concept the old pot luck dinners! Haven’t been to one of those for a while time to get out the old cooking gear again 🙂


  • JJ Jalopy May 4, 2009, 4:44 AM

    The concept of a pot luck dinner is new to me. It sounds like a lot of fun!

    I enjoy your focus on how and where people can meet each other. You do a lot to make it sound easy and fun.

    What I’m trying to say is that your blog rocks!

    JJ Jalopy.

  • Yann Vernier May 4, 2009, 5:27 AM

    What a cool and fun idea – potluck dinners. Yet another way to meet new people without the pressure of the dating game.

    All the best,

  • John Ho May 4, 2009, 5:58 AM


    You’re always full of great ideas for the singles from various age groups to get what they want!

    A relationship diva indeed!

    Using Pure numerology to run compatibility analysis between singles also help to miminize time being wasted.

    John Ho

  • Lisa McLellan May 4, 2009, 9:11 AM

    I love the idea of pot luck dinners with different hosts and hostesses each time. Also, I found your comment about ladies seeking out younger men interesting. If I were single and dating, I’d have a hard time dating a younger guy. I am far too insecure. I’d be expecting to be dumped for a younger lady probably once a week! hahaha I’d stick with the older dudes! 🙂 Great advice as always romance coach. I always mention your site and blog to my single babysitting clients.

    Lisa McLellan, Babysitting Services – Babysitters, Nannies, and Au-pairs

  • Anthony Lemme May 4, 2009, 12:10 PM

    There are a group of us who periodically have vegetarian pot luck dinners. We bring all our kids and lot’s of amazing organic vegetarian food. It is such a wholesome and fun way to connect.


  • Darryl Pace May 4, 2009, 12:26 PM


    Nice tips on how to meet new people, which sounds like it’s the name of the game when it comes to finding that special someone.

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  • Lynn Lane May 4, 2009, 3:31 PM

    You always have some fantastic ideas.
    Lynn Lane

  • mark mallen May 4, 2009, 6:31 PM

    April, What about the men dating younger women? Mark

  • Pat Becker May 4, 2009, 11:51 PM

    Better get out my favorite pot luck recipe. Oh, wait, I have blogs to write and comments to make, lots of work to do. Humm… guess that’s what I’ve been saying for a long time.


  • David Power May 5, 2009, 7:13 AM

    This is a kewl and fun idea!!!

    Thanks April!!


  • Liza Tannery December 28, 2010, 10:54 AM

    cool ideas for mature singles dating. April what do you think is the best dating site to meet guys over 55 years old?

  • Sandy March 19, 2011, 3:22 PM

    Thanks April. It sure is worth mentioning how different it is to be single when you’re over 50 and dating than it was in my 20s.

  • Harrison April 7, 2011, 10:13 AM

    Dating again now after being divorced really is different now. I’ve been online but chat room women are the ones who respond to me. Or I get women in Africa wanting me to send them money. IS there a way to do on line dating well and meet attractive real women? Or are they all phonies?

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