For the Single Boomer dater, in general, if you are At Home, you are in the Wrong Place. Whether you are a Single Parent, Jewish Singles, or Christian Single, you gotta make a concerted effort to meet new people and get out of the rut of isolating and staying at home all the time.
You must make a concerted effort to stretch your social circle and meet new people.
Small social gatherings are often the best sort of social venues in which to meet other single Boomers and see if, indeed, you want to date each other.
Think COCKTAIL PARTY. Like Speed Dating events, you want to aim for cocktail parties that are have an attendance range of 20-50 people. This is a large enough group which will interact with each other and have enough people to make it interesting. And yet not so many people that you move about in social clique packs like back in high school and college.
As one who might be attending such an event, you will benefit the group when you make a concerted effort to Bring Someone New With You. Perhaps you have a single GF in from out of town, an old college chum, or fraternity brother. Bring them with you to enliven the group with Fresh New Blood.
Indeed, you social hostess will be grateful that he or she did not have to do all the work to make it an interesting and varied group. You helped out. Those are also good social skill sets which will enliven your romantic relationship over the many years ahead. Because once married, it’s not that you wanted to live a boring married life, did you? Probably not, or you wouldn’t be reading MY blog.
Bring your new Ashtanga Yoga instructor, a Small Business Owner, a Hypnotherapist in town presenting at the local college, a Vintage Jewelry expert, a school teacher with a theatrical background. Keep things lively and engaged. And not only will you be meeting more new people and more new single Boomers, but you will be laying the groundwork for a vital lifestyle for the long run.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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April, I have found the ideal place to meet women is in the ice cream stores. Women certainly love ice cream. Not that it does me much good lately with all the internet work I need to do. Mark
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Hi April,
I like it! I always wondered why Jessica Alba never gave me the time of day! And now I realize i have to actually leave the house! Doh!
Love your advice April its awesome
Duane
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Great advice April. I think that Internet Marketing Seminars look like a great place for boomers (esp women) to meet success oriented guys.
Duane, I had a short twitter conversation with Jessica Alba a few weeks ago about Entourage so you don’t have to leave home. Of course she looks better in person than on twitter!
Seize the Day,
Rob
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I love it. Good Job. And then if you click in the grief recovery link that is so extremely packed with useful information. And you get to see her rubbing shoulders with Friedman in the flesh a real genious. It is not often you get to see a picture with two people who are genious and helpful.
I am guessing this is hard for many people. Stretch the circle of comfort almost to dis comfort.
Bob Kaufer
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April,
Great tips as usual for singles to get dates.
They they might be lucky to secure a soul mate as time goes on.
John Ho
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Continuously reaching out to new people is good for sales as well as … relationships. At the end of the day, the similarities are much more than the differences.
Christian Haller
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I have found the best place to meet people is anywhere but sitting at home.
Steve Chambers, The Sales Expert
This sounds like fun. Great advice, sitting at home is the worst place to be for anyone in the dating game looking at meeting people and expanding their comfort zone.
All the best,
Yann
Setting at home is a safe place, but not the place to meet people for sure.
I like the cocktail party idea.
Lynn LAne
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As ever you illustrate the power of having an expert really thinking through an issue. Your dating advice is so wonderfully pragmatic, and it’s exactly what’s needed when people get stuck in a rut and need some inspiration.
Philip Graves
Beyond Consumer Research
You’re so creative with these ideas.
I like the way you encourage people to get out there.
JJ Jalopy.
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Hey Mark, good plan, I would like to meet a guy in an ice cream store! Now that would be a man of my dreams. Maybe you could hold speed dating there. April I am volunteering at the ART CRAWL tonight.
Also, really enjoying the Frief REcovery book.
SunnyMarie
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What a great wealth of dating advice you have to offer boomers. It’s hard sometimes to get out of our comfort zone. I’m guessing for many, it’s easier just to stay home – and of course complain that they never meet anyone.
Pam
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Why do I love your blog posts so much? There are a few on here that I really look forward to reading everyday and yours is definitely one of them!!!! “if you’re at home, you’re in the wrong place!” Love that line. You are awesome! You tell ‘em April. That’s right ladies and gentlemen, get out and go on dates, a babysitter is just a click away!!! LOL
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April you should be on Tv we would love you over here on a early morning chat show…your advice is superb!!!
David Power
Great advice that is, as you intimated, applicable over the long run — both while single and after getting marriage.
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Hi April,
Good post. Another place I would recommend for Boomers is taking dance lessons. Great way to meet new people and to work on their non-verbal body language. For Men it should help them develop presence in front of females too!
Mitch
A little bit of light humor and you get your point across. So I have to leave home? What a concept.
Pat
Business Owners Fast Track to Internet Profits
So glad you ordered the Grief Recovery Handbook and are enjoying reading and doing the Action Plan within it. I’d love to hear your thoughts and feelings at the end.
Best regards,
April Braswell