Single Baby Boomer Dating Success Tip – Have Personal Cards Made and Carry Them with You
A quick and easy Dating Success Tip for Baby Boomers is to have personal cards made and carry those with you.
A personal card resembles a business card, however, yes, from the name of them, they bear your personal information on them. That way when you are in the midst of a lovely light small talk conversation after doing my suggest Daily 5 you then have a graceful, polished, and poised way to segue to connecting with the person later.
Practice uttering such sentences, “I’ve so enjoyed talking with you about target shooting. I hope you’ll call me and ask me on a date.”
Smile.
Hand him your personal card.
He might ask you out now.
Or phone you later.
Or never.
But because you are talking with 5-25 new people per day, some single men, some who knows if they are single or not (because not all married men wear their wedding band, i.e. blue collar men who work with their hands all day long because the ring can easily break or get lost), it doesn’t matter. You do this like casting pixie dust.
I’ll provide some utterances for the men tomorrow.
Dos and Don’ts of Personal Cards
What to include on your personal card
Color
The full scale formal ones must be white or ecru. While you may choose to display some personality here, doing so starts to reek of desperation. They should read you are prepared to interact with people socially but not scream, “I’m desperate.” For personal cards, the simpler the better.
Personal Contact Information
Do include personal contact information, a personal cell number (with online dating, you must have a personal cell number. If you are concerned about sharing that number with strangers, then purchase a no-contract plan additional phone like with Metro PCS or one of the carriers that serves your area.)
Do create a separate email address, a secondary email account for your social dating purposes. If you need to block them or delete the account for unwanted contact later, it won’t be the email address you’ve used for over 10 years with all of your address book information in it.
What NOT to include on your personal card
Don’t put the email address you use at your Social Networking sites. This person is still a stranger, and you don’t want them having access to your full family and friends photo history (yet) at MySpace, Facebook, and Twitter.
Don’t put your business number or business email address on your personal card. If this is a business function, then by all means, give them your business card. However, in what are personal social interactions, one the formal social rule is not to do business at them, so to hand a business card out would be socially gauche. Also on your personal safety level, you want to vet this person a bit more before they have your business address and might show up at the door unexpectedly.
Don’t include super personal information. While the original formal personal cards would cite the cities in which you hold residences, you might not want to do that. If you live in a large metropolitan area, Dallas, Los Angeles, Chicago, or San Francisco, you could put your city on your card. Other than that, since you are meeting them in those areas, you don’t need to be specific. And you do want to maintain your personal safety.
Do or Don’t include you last name. Of course, on the formal personal card, you would include you full formal name. However, I don’t always suggest including your last name anymore. With the advent of Social Networking where almost all of of are findable on the internet, including our professional work history and current employer if you are an employee and not a business owner (see, LinkedIn, Plaxo, and Zoom). Use your best judgment. Do a search on your first and last name. What shows up. Would you be happy having a stranger you flirted with at the coffee shop knowing all of this about you BEFORE your first date? (Not only for safety reasons but also for personal mystery and chemistry creation, I’d avoid it.)
Result?
Your personal card includes…..
Your First Name
Secondary Personal Email Address
Personal Cell Phone Number
Now get out and flirt!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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Excellent idea, I have never heard this one before! A personal card – perfect! No fumbling for a pen or a scrap of paper to write on.
Lisa McLellan
Babysitting Services – Babysitters and Nannies
Great idea! I will recommend it to some of my friends.
It makes remembering names easier.
http://www.TerryTom.com
April, you really are the dating maven. This is a great idea. It’s much classier than the old “number on a napkin” trick.
Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Training Expert
Great tip April. A personal card is a great idea…
Seize the Day,
Rob
Emergency Preparedness For the 21st Century Family
Good advice for those in the mix. It is so awkward when a potential date calls at the office . . . particularly if I think I’m picking up a business call. Not cool.
So I stopped giving out cards all together. This is a nice alternative.
Building talent, Kate
Hi April,
Glad to see you back! That is great info…so much better than writing it down or putting it in your cell phone. I also agree with the social networking thing as well…it is way to soon to let a stranger in and there can be some weird ones out there!
Anthony
http://www.functionalzen.com
You truly know your stuff April.
Jose Escalante
http://www.ChampionGreenEnergy.com
The cards are a fantastic idea Aprildudette!
So when are we going out?
Mrs. Jalopy and I are going on a big American roadtrip in November. Where will you be then? You HAVE to be a pin on our map!!
Another compliment for you:
Your blog has excellent flow, direction, and creates anticipation.
Bert
BusinessAndMarketingMakeover.com/blog
Great Advice…
Scott
http://www.salesjunkie.net
If I was single….great idea. I’m going to tell my daughter about this one.
Vicki http://www.bridalthreadshq.com
April,
One more great idea that adds class to the mix. And a thorough job with the do’s and don’ts.
Lynn Lane
http://www.Warriorofsuccess.com
Wow! Great idea!
I’ve steered a friend of mine to your website. He likes the fact that you tell it like it is.
Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace
This is really a very interesting point you make, April. and I thank you for sharing. If a girl gives me her card than I know that she is really interested in me!
Is it ok if I just give him my business card?
This is a extremely fascinating post, thank you for sharing your dating insights April. Having a card sounds like such a great idea!
This is really a extremely cool point for mature singles, April. Sometimes it seems like a whole new ball game to be single again now in in my 50s. Once I see attractive single women I don’t know how to move to a date with them. Thanks a lot for this dating tip! I’ve read a great deal about this topic in the past and I agree with you this sounds like a smooth idea.
TY for the great information for us older daters! I have been wanting to meet more single women around my age but it’s been discouraging. Your tips are really helping me.
So when I carry a personal card it helps the senior single men to ask me out on a date? That sounds easy enough to me. It is really challenging to meet eligible men over 50 and 60 years old. Where do you think I should go to meet them April?
Took me some to find your dating site, April but all your dating post I’ve read so far are all great. I genuinely enjoyed your article. It proved to become extremely beneficial to me and I am positive I can try this with mature single men.
April how do you suggest I talk with mature men? Where should I go to meet them? I find it hard to meet men who are single over 55 years old. Where do you suggest I go?
For real dating and meeting mature single men, what dating site do you think is best for senior dating, April?
many of my girlfriend are also over 55 years old and we can’t understand why there isn’t a dating site dedicated to helping us find love online. I’m reading your dating blog and wondering April what site to register at to meet men on the internet. Where do you suggest?
I don’t think I could hand a man a personal card… isn’t there a dating site where I could met senior men?
I like the idea of a personal card. That sounds so convenient when you’re flirting….
The single guys over 55 years old seem all to be leftovers. Aren’t there any good ones available?
Hi April. I like the idea of carrying a personal card to make it a bit easier for all of us senior singles back in the dating pool again and over 50 years old. It feels so different now. Are there places you suggest to meet more of the over 50 year single man? I really do prefer mature men around my own age.
Thank you April for reminding us to keep out of the rut and to expand our social circle as we age for boomer senior singles.
May I link to this dating post over at my blog please April?
Hi April! Thank you for going into such detail for singles to meet well. It’s like the missing like with so many free dating tips articles I read which are so unspecific. Having a plan and the cards must help.
I like the idea of personal cards. It makes the transition easier and less awkward for both people. No fumbling for a pen or napkin.
This post seems to get a great deal of visitors. The senior singles really need that extra help with dating. How do you promote it? It offers a nice unique twist on things. I guess having something useful or substantial to post about is the most important factor.
Dating sure is different when you’re over 55 years old. So many people are already married or they just don’t sem to be getting out of their houses. How can I meet a mature beautiful woman my own age?
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