Baby Boomer Dating Success Tip – Have Personal Cards Made and Carry Them with You

by April Braswell on September 11, 2009

Single Baby Boomer Dating Success Tip – Have Personal Cards Made and Carry Them with You

A quick and easy Dating Success Tip for Baby Boomers is to have personal cards made and carry those with you.

A personal card resembles a business card, however, yes, from the name of them, they bear your personal information on them.  That way when you are in the midst of a lovely light small talk conversation after doing my suggest Daily 5 you then have a graceful, polished, and poised way to segue to connecting with the person later.

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Practice uttering such sentences, “I’ve so enjoyed talking with you about target shooting. I hope you’ll call me and ask me on a date.”

Smile.

Hand him your personal card.

He might ask you out now.

Or phone you later.

Or never.

But because you are talking with 5-25 new people per day, some single men, some who knows if they are single or not (because not all married men wear their wedding band, i.e. blue collar men who work with their hands all day long because the ring can easily break or get lost), it doesn’t matter.  You do this like casting pixie dust.

I’ll provide some utterances for the men tomorrow.

Dos and Don’ts of Personal Cards

What to include on your personal card

Color

The full scale formal ones must be white or ecru.  While you may choose to display some personality here, doing so starts to reek of desperation.  They should read you are prepared to interact with people socially but not scream, “I’m desperate.”  For personal cards, the simpler the better.

Personal Contact Information

Do include personal contact information, a personal cell number (with online dating, you must have a personal cell number. If you are concerned about sharing that number with strangers, then purchase a no-contract plan additional phone like with Metro PCS or one of the carriers that serves your area.)

Do create a separate email address, a secondary email account for your social dating purposes.  If you need to block them or delete the account for unwanted contact later, it won’t be the email address you’ve used for over 10 years with all of your address book information in it.

What NOT to include on your personal card

Don’t put the email address you use at your Social Networking sites.  This person is still a stranger, and you don’t want them having access to your full family and friends photo history (yet) at MySpace, Facebook, and Twitter.

Don’t put your business number or business email address on your personal card.  If this is a business function, then by all means, give them your business card.  However, in what are personal social interactions, one the formal social rule is not to do business at them, so to hand a business card out would be socially gauche.  Also on your personal safety level, you want to vet this person a bit more before they have your business address and might show up at the door unexpectedly.

Don’t include super personal information.  While the original formal personal cards would cite the cities in which you hold residences, you might not want to do that.  If you live in a large metropolitan area, Dallas, Los Angeles, Chicago, or San Francisco, you could put your city on your card.  Other than that, since you are meeting them in those areas, you don’t need to be specific.  And you do want to maintain your personal safety.

Do or Don’t include you last name.  Of course, on the formal personal card, you would include you full formal name.  However, I don’t always suggest including your last name anymore.  With the advent of Social Networking where almost all of of are findable on the internet, including our professional work history and current employer if you are an employee and not a business owner (see, LinkedIn, Plaxo, and Zoom).  Use your best judgment.  Do a search on your first and last name.  What shows up.  Would you be happy having a stranger you flirted with at the coffee shop knowing all of this about you BEFORE your first date? (Not only for safety reasons but also for personal mystery and chemistry creation, I’d avoid it.)

Result?

Your personal card includes…..

Your First Name

Secondary Personal Email Address

Personal Cell Phone Number

Now get out and flirt!

Happy Dating and Relationships,

April Braswell

Baby Boomer Dating Expert

{ 23 comments… read them below or add one }

Lisa McLellan September 11, 2009 at 12:10 PM

Excellent idea, I have never heard this one before! A personal card – perfect! No fumbling for a pen or a scrap of paper to write on.

Lisa McLellan
Babysitting Services – Babysitters and Nannies

Terry Tom September 11, 2009 at 12:46 PM

Great idea! I will recommend it to some of my friends.
It makes remembering names easier.

Steve Chambers September 11, 2009 at 7:04 PM

April, you really are the dating maven. This is a great idea. It’s much classier than the old “number on a napkin” trick.

Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Training Expert

Kate McKeon September 11, 2009 at 8:46 PM

Good advice for those in the mix. It is so awkward when a potential date calls at the office . . . particularly if I think I’m picking up a business call. Not cool.

So I stopped giving out cards all together. This is a nice alternative.

Building talent, Kate

Rob Northrup September 11, 2009 at 8:07 PM

Great tip April. A personal card is a great idea…

Seize the Day,
Rob

Anthony Lemme September 11, 2009 at 8:59 PM

Hi April,

Glad to see you back! That is great info…so much better than writing it down or putting it in your cell phone. I also agree with the social networking thing as well…it is way to soon to let a stranger in and there can be some weird ones out there!

Anthony

Jose Escalante September 11, 2009 at 9:57 PM

You truly know your stuff April.

Jose Escalante

Mister P. September 12, 2009 at 3:07 AM

Another compliment for you:

Your blog has excellent flow, direction, and creates anticipation.

Bert

JJ Jalopy September 12, 2009 at 4:03 AM

The cards are a fantastic idea Aprildudette!

So when are we going out?

Mrs. Jalopy and I are going on a big American roadtrip in November. Where will you be then? You HAVE to be a pin on our map!!

Vick September 12, 2009 at 6:44 AM

If I was single….great idea. I’m going to tell my daughter about this one.

Vicki http://www.bridalthreadshq.com

Scott Payne September 12, 2009 at 6:21 AM

Great Advice…
Scott

Lynn Lane September 12, 2009 at 2:07 PM

April,
One more great idea that adds class to the mix. And a thorough job with the do’s and don’ts.

Lynn Lane

Darryl Pace September 12, 2009 at 6:54 PM

Wow! Great idea!
I’ve steered a friend of mine to your website. He likes the fact that you tell it like it is.

Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace

Pete McAveney December 24, 2010 at 8:04 AM

This is really a very interesting point you make, April. and I thank you for sharing. If a girl gives me her card than I know that she is really interested in me!

Hally Breehl December 25, 2010 at 2:00 PM

Is it ok if I just give him my business card?

Eric Schnabel December 27, 2010 at 5:21 AM

This is really a extremely cool point for mature singles, April. Sometimes it seems like a whole new ball game to be single again now in in my 50s. Once I see attractive single women I don’t know how to move to a date with them. Thanks a lot for this dating tip! I’ve read a great deal about this topic in the past and I agree with you this sounds like a smooth idea.

Denny December 27, 2010 at 9:03 PM

TY for the great information for us older daters! I have been wanting to meet more single women around my age but it’s been discouraging. Your tips are really helping me.

Gloria Webster December 28, 2010 at 10:50 AM

So when I carry a personal card it helps the senior single men to ask me out on a date? That sounds easy enough to me. It is really challenging to meet eligible men over 50 and 60 years old. Where do you think I should go to meet them April?

Anita Diez December 29, 2010 at 12:10 AM

Took me some to find your dating site, April but all your dating post I’ve read so far are all great. I genuinely enjoyed your article. It proved to become extremely beneficial to me and I am positive I can try this with mature single men.

Penelope Ann December 31, 2010 at 7:41 PM

April how do you suggest I talk with mature men? Where should I go to meet them? I find it hard to meet men who are single over 55 years old. Where do you suggest I go?

Emma Ann Bennett January 5, 2011 at 9:31 AM

For real dating and meeting mature single men, what dating site do you think is best for senior dating, April?

Valerie Wassenaar January 10, 2011 at 6:43 AM

many of my girlfriend are also over 55 years old and we can’t understand why there isn’t a dating site dedicated to helping us find love online. I’m reading your dating blog and wondering April what site to register at to meet men on the internet. Where do you suggest?

Anna Walker February 16, 2011 at 5:26 PM

I don’t think I could hand a man a personal card… isn’t there a dating site where I could met senior men?

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