OK, I'm In a Relationship, NOW What Do I Do?
By April Braswell
April Braswell, leading Online Dating Coach and Romantic Relationship Coach addresses the question, "OK, I'm In
a Relationship, Now What Do I Do?"
So many people who are in the "Single - Never Married" category at the internet dating websites get to that
wonderful We're a Couple Stage of Relationships, and then they get stymied. That is often when they
approach me to work with them as their Relationship Coach.
Because they've never been married before.
Or they HAVE been married, and don't want to repeat their former mistakes. Hey we are all human,
right? But they want to LEARN and move forward.
Getting TO The Relationship really was The Goal they held in their mind.
They have succeeded.
They are THERE now.
How do you build and foster a Relationship?
What do you really WANT in a Relationship?
What does Being In and Having A Relationship MEAN to you?
They have successfully negotiated Exclusivity, Long Term Relationship, and Continuity to your being A Couple,
and now you ARE one. Now you have LIFE before you. What do you want to include in that LIFE together as
you further evaluate the possibility of Being Together for Life?
The Mundane Things of Life
The mundane things of life are actually what comprise much of life. Rather than treating these as annoying
chores that must be endured, thereby leaving you to endure about 87% of your life, choose a different
attitude. The mundane tasks of life can now be opportunities for creating greater connection and
intimacy. Doing the dishes together can be a time for connecting about your day. Folding the laundry
and matching the socks can be a time to inquire about your partners thoughts about world news and events. You
can have a conversation while doing these things, and ladies, I'll let you in on another secret. Often
taciturn men will open up and talk more when you are not making eye contact with them and they are in the midst of
DOING SOMETHING. Once they are talking on one subject they enjoy, like a warmed up diesel engine, they are
more likely to keep talking. "So, how about that Sharks game last night?....... [later on once he
is talking....] How are things at work going?"
Try that with your teenage as well and you might just find yourself communicating, connecting, and truly
knowing them like you want to have happen.
Create Memories Together
Remember to Live and to Do Interesting
Quite often a couple who is dating will get into a rut. Marred couples do this, too. We've all seen
it happen, perhaps with our parents. Perhaps that's a fear you have about getting married. "I might get
bored. Anything but that!"
Mix things up a little to keep things lively and interesting. Go on a weekend road trip. Take a trip
to another metropolitan area together. Fly to a foreign country. Some couples really enjoy planning
those trips in advance, like the anticipation of sexual flirtation and foreplay, the planning and anticipation
builds up and extends the fun and pleasure. Sometimes taking a
trip at the last minute creates excitement and fosters a feeling of spontenaity as well in the
relationship. Gentlemen, do show up Friday night with your itineary in hand and say, "Honey, we're going to
sunny San Diego this weekend! Pack your bags!" She might initially resist, "Oh, I have a million things
to do!" But you already knew your schedule with her this weekend (because you've been talking with her while
doing the dishes and going grocery shopping, right? Good.), that's just her fear. It's next weekend
that she has 5 errands she HAS to do. Display your masculine leadership and INSIST on
going away this weekend. Taking these periodic trips together helps to avoid that dreadful feeling of He
Takes Me for Granted or She Never Appreciates Me.
And you are building MEMORIES together.
Memories you can share together when you are in assisted living later in life when frail.
Memories to cement the relationship and recollect together for years to come with children, nieces, nephews and
Memories to make for interesting conversations with other people so you continue to be interesting and involved
Go ahead, build some memories, and over time you will now slowly realize, you HAVE a successful, long term,
fulfilling relationship. It's a great feeling, isn't it?
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Have More Family Time - the Way YOU Want it
Some nights we watch Star Trek on DVD. Others Planet Earth. Last night
at bedtime we read a chapter of Harry Potter. My son loves all this stuff...and so do I.
Recently, I've been able to take everyone to the Grand Canyon and Las Vegas...a couple
of times... A blast! Then, we went to Boy Scout Camp. (He's a Webelo.)
Other nights, I prep for an interview with Redbook, Selling Power, Success, The New
York Times, Playboy, Cosmo, or some other magazine and get ready for the next major presentation that is coming
First Class...the Rule
When traveling... it's a rule. You get out of first class, go straight to the waiting
limo and then straight to the hotel. If it's less than a four star hotel, something is not right about the
You'll be adopting that rule very shortly...
When you give people what they deserve in life, you treat yourself well, too. Write
that down. It's a rule. If I'm not traveling, I don't leave the house much most days. My 2000 Honda now has almost
34,000 miles on it. Because income is a global event in Time for Love, Time for Money, you make money while
your pillow snuggles your head at night. And that is important.
If I'm off to a far off land, I make sure I do something I'll never forget, everywhere
I go and capture at least one cool memory for the ages.
Multiple Streams of Income are Possible
Time for Money. Time for Love. It took awhile to figure it out...to make it
happen. To be able to have time to allow money to come in via multiple streams of income, and yet, also, spend time
with the most important people in the world to me.
In part, this is about living your "Get to Do" List.
"Kevin, How Do You Do So Much?"
People ask me all the time, "how do you get so much done?"
My friend, Richard Brodie, changed the world when he invented Microsoft Word.
You should see his "get to do" list. He is the author of Virus of The Mind and Getting Past OK and
now having a blast as a world-class poker player. He once called me, "the most productive person on earth." Jeffrey
Gitomer, of The Sales Bible fame commented to his staff while I was recording at his studio, "He has it all
(8 hours of seminar material) memorized." (I really don't...)
My stream-of-consciousness is my life and I'm going to give you the secrets that will
flip many things you were taught about having it all...upside down. I literally love the next challenge. Each one
is invigorating enough to get to do more.
A "Balanced" Life?
I don't lead a balanced life. Aside from taxes and trimming the shrubs, I love
everything I do.
Right now: get rid of your 20-year life plan. Completely ERASE your 10-year plan from
your goals planner.
It's a waste of thinking and paper.
You'll soon complete every project you start without procrastination.
Your life will UNFOLD before you.
You Get to Make Your Own "Get to Do" List
I will tell you that you can have almost anything you write on your "Get to Do"
More important: I'll show you how and illustrate with crystal clear examples. I will
show you why a 20-year plan means nothing and is actually destructive to your achievement.
How can YOU have it all?
How can you be... not 20% more productive, or twice as productive, but 1000% more
productive, and also give your time and love to the people that matter in your life... AND remember your
You need to give yourself time as well. How do you do it? How can you make it all
In this program, as in no other, I'm going to reveal precisely what I do and how I do
it. I'm going to show you specifically how (for example) to generate enough words and valuable thought to fill a
volume of Encyclopedia Britannica... to find time to have family and multiple streams of income...to leave a legacy
and people saying, "Thank you..." and the specifics to make it all happen.
Learn How to "Create" Time
I don't think there is much more important than creating time for the things you want
in life...the things you get to do. People yearn for free time while I watch it right next to them...withering away
as they walk through life with a blindfold on. There is not just free time but freedom to be had for the
Bonus: I will show you my system of time management (ok, it's really a Time
Production System where I generate time for things out of thin air...and I promise you that no one has ever shown
you this before...because few people really get it.)
There is no point to working at a job for the rest of your life and then
Where's the here-and-now enjoyment there?
There is no point in living a life without loving. What you are called to do is to
create, to design, to sculpt a wonderful life.
That isn't to say that each day curve balls won't come at you. They always will. They
throw you off target. They do the same for me. They can take you out for a short period of time or they can take
you permanently. I'm going to show you how to get everything done and more. Because life is more than the to do
list. It is about living richly as you move through life...
There IS a "to do" list in life but there is also a "get-to-do list" that no one ever
gets to!!! I can't wait to show you what a "get to do" list looks like and how to make your own.
Create and Produce Your own Time
You will be able to produce or create as much as you want to produce or create. You
will be able to have the formula for multiple streams of income laid out for you in simple terms. Nothing complex.
Follow the formula and you won't need to rely on anyone anywhere for your security and your future. The foundation
of life long security.
You will be able to earn as much money as you want and spend as much time with those
that you love.
You choose the number of dollars and the number of hours. I'll show you what to do to
have it all.
This isn't a time management seminar. That would be something I could show you how to
do in a book. I don't manage my time. I live a lifestyle. This is a lifestyle program that you have to experience.
Living a life where you can have it all is something you need to FEEL...and feel it you will.
All that it requires is you, your heart, a pen and the Production System Workbook to
write the recipes that will lead you to a life where you get to do some pretty amazing things.
You might think you don't deserve to have it all. I suggest the opposite. And if you
don't want it all, would it be OK to have what you want? To live the life you choose?
More than 94% of people have zero chance of living the life they truly
They will die with their music still in them.
They will not get to their "get-to-do" list. They will not leave a legacy. They
will wither doing the same thing day in and day out until they die.
This program is the first I have done like this. You will see that it is impassioned.
You will laugh and you will cry. You will be transformed and you will be energized. Not motivation. Transformation.
Not getting your to-do list done, but getting to your "get-to-do list."
It's lifestyle in the life you choose. It's the simple (or sometimes dramatic watch
out!) shifts in thinking.
Be fearless. Do this. Take one step.
Put a new picture of what is possible in front of you. Let someone you love listen so
you both benefit.
All I ask is that you let me put a "get-to-do" list on your table.
Already have the "get-to-do list" and the life you design? Take the program for the
ideas that you can show those you coach and consult for. You will never see this laid out again at this
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